Being Married Is Soooo Lonely

His position is thus.

1 - he does not want to **** you.
2 - you can **** someone else, but you must lie about so doing.

That is quite the dysfunctional situation wouldn't you say ? A marriage where there is no intimate expression, to which he wants to value add by introducing cheating and lying into it (with YOU having to do the cheating and lying) What a lazy thoughtless *****.

Read extensively in here Sister dyna. You will see your narrative repeated constantly.

We get it.

Tread your own path.

Going outside the marriage is an okay solution. It's a little rocky until you sort stuff out but it has been working for me and my friend who was going without also.

Keep reading on here.

You are still seeing your H's actions as somehow reflective of who YOU are. You have nothing to be ashamed of - it is HIS problem, whatever his problem is, that he is intimacy averse.

I second mvcmvc about how disrespectful he seems to be. In fact, at one point in my sexless marriage we discussed maybe opening the marriage to an affair for me, he agreed but started laying down rules about who I could have sex with, and that was one of the final nails in the coffin - what do you mean, you won't have sex with me but you think you can dictate who I have sex with??? So we are now "ex's"...

-----"if I need to do anything about it just don't let him find out"

This is the most disrespectful sentence your husband could say to you.

WHY? He does not want intimate interaction. He is asserting autonomy over HIS body by refusing you, but he is also controlling your automomy by telling you to have an affair under HIS RULES and he will punish you for it if you get caught.

That is bullshit.

He is telling you he ain't goona feed you and that if you want to eat, you must steal food - but do not get caught stealing. He has set you up to FAIL.

Do you see how utterly disrespectful this is to you?

"if my own husband doesn' t want me who the hell else would"?



at least 1 billion men (though you don't have go out with all billion or more of them, just find one)