I live in a sexless marriage , in fact its been exactly 3 years tonight although it was tailing off for a couple of years before that. I'm wracked with self doubt, I'm deeply ashamed, my self esteem is at rock bottom and I fear anyone finding out. He says he understands that I have needs and if I need to do anything about it just don't let him find out. What he doesn't understand is I dont want anyone else and jeezo if my own husband doesn' t want me who the hell else would. I just see a future without passion and I find that really depressing. A couple having a hug on tv is enough to start tears these days. Glad I found this sight.