A Lot Of Time On His HandsWell, I am coming to the realization that I have a sexless marriage, however, my husband does not! Upon looking on husbands computer I found NUMEROUS (lots & lots....probably every site out there!) site for hook-ups & web cam sex sites. I'm not talking about match.com, I'm talking about sites like ashleymadison.com & other hook-up sites for discreet no attachment meetings with married people. Looks like he was also looking for free webcams.
Now I am not very computer savvy, why would he need to look for a webcam? Isn't that the camera that's already built into the computer? Second, there was one site I could not find what it was (porndonor.com), I assumed it would be a p*** site, but I found one forum that asked about it & it had another question that maybe it was a craigslist listing site? Are there companies that advertise for married men looking for women in cities so the men's wives can't find out its them?
With all the sites I found it seems like, if he's not having a physical affair (which it doesn't seem to be for lack of trying) that he is getting sexual release through webcams.
What is so confusing is why in the world would he want to come around & hold my hand, kiss me, tell me he loves me...when every free moment he has when he is out of town working (those are the dates that the sites show up under his history) he is visiting all those sites.? It doesn't make sense to me. It's like he has no intention of physically leaving but is exploring every affair option.
Thoughts? Opinions on how to proceed? I hate to be sneaky (in fact, I've really never invaded his privacy before) but feel that looking into his computer history is the only way I am going to find out the truth about my marriage, he certainly isn't forthcoming.
drpinkangel 36-40, F 10 Responses 1 Feb 13, 2013