I Live In a Sexless Marriage

It's Valentine's Day

By: killer32

Written on February 14th, 2013

So after not been with her sexually for the past 5 months (not becuase of me)
I hope I get lucky today !!!!
I got her a nice gift and I'm making dinner. I got a hair cut and shaved I been super nice to her all this week. I hope it works. wish me luck

By: killer32

Age: 31-35 , Male

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19 responses

clevebver

You can't be super nice for a week and expect sex. What about the other 5 months?

Mar 16
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Mattiesue

What I want to know is how you met someone at the gym and were able to get to know them enough to become fb-ies lol. ILIASM and am in great shape, work out regularly, but men at my gym don't hit on me. Please tell us how you met your fb.

Feb 16
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- killer32
  Hi!! mattiesue.
  Well! I'm at the gym at 4-4:30am everyday. so there is not that much people at the gym at that time but I had seen this lady at the gym for years So one day finally I said hi we just clicked it really fast.
  So one day she told me that I was the first face and human contac she had every morning and that it was better than her boring husband!
  I told her thank you and I commented to her why the husband didn't come to work out with her, at that point she opened up with me and little by little we started talking about our sexless relationships. We became friends and the sex came later with the time.
  Due to our schedules and lifes we don't play as much as we want. shes been married 8 years with 3 kids. I been with my GF for almost 14 years practically I'm married too.
  as for you Mattiesue why don't you be agreesive and talk to guys make the first move. I always get hit on by the ladys and sometimes by guys
  but that's and other story and I haven't got that far yet.
  all I can tell you at first when my GF started rejecting me it made me fell really bad I lost my confidence in every single level. I'm much better now I became stronger and accepting of my situation. my mother told me ones that" you could never have everything in life and that if every thing was so easy life wouldn't be fun the only thing we need to do is to make the best of what we have"
  I have made alot of friends at the gym and I can tell you that you and I are not alone there is more people than you think in the same situation of a sexless marriage.
  
  Feb 18
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youneeda

Have you ever said Hey. ' Let's have sex?! NOw.' Im sorry to hear you didn't get any.
Naked, in a jacuzzi and she only talks??
Come on man--tell her, "yeah I'll go to the seminar--take your clothes off right now and **** me.Then I'll go with you."

Feb 15
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- killer32
  Man! I hope I get to find out what kind of problems she has or mental issues on this seminar.
  As for the sex part I have a FB that I F@#$ the hell yesterday morning at the parking lot of my gym I couldn't hold my blue balls any longer my FB is a really nice lady she has the same problems I have her husband is not touching her for sex. This lady is beautiful nice body work out every day she cooks she cleans and take care of their kids. She would be the perfect lady to marry!
  I guess life just likes to play games with us and we just have to go along with it
  
  Feb 16
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- youneeda
  YEah, life Is a 'game', and we participate. BUt, we DO NOT have to 'go along' ,when we are offered shi*t.
  I'm very happy to hear about your fwb--be careful of HEr husband though!
  I am curious why, at your young age,in CAlifornia, you feel that you HAVE to stick by this 'wife' of yours?
  WHy not DTMFA ? ( ever read savage love ? that means 'dump the mother - fuc&er already'!
  Y ou are young. Be happy. ( do you 2 have kids? )
  ALSO-- WHy even MENtion the word 'marriage' ( re: your fwb..... )??? Just enjoy.....
  ANd, I've wondered this too: have you ever just ASKED the 'wife' "is she also has a fwb"??
  if she's fuc&ing someone else....?
  
  Feb 16
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killer32

So it is 4:30 am in los Angeles and I woke up alone.
Yes it was nice yesterday but just for the nite. We have dinner and got on our Jacuzzi. We kiss huge I wasn't rushing sex. I gave her time!! We talk she told me she love me, thru our conversation she told me she was greatfull, happy and she loved life but she is having a hard time trying to find herself! I was in my mind like what?????? I say it was ok no problem and that if there was anything I could do I would help her and be there for her.
So on that note she asked me if could go with her to this seminar over the weekend to see and meet
"Hester and Abraham hicks".
Lately I have seen her reading these books from this people with titles like "the power of now", "the love of atraction","the vortex". To be honest I don't read I'm too lazy. Unless is a manual to fix or put together som thing you would see me read.
I lover her too much I don't see my self with out her. We have built a lot together all these years.
Have I cheated on her? yes but that is because of no having sex at home.
Did I have sex last nite? No
Why I woke up alone? Lately she's been having sleeping problems so she goes to the other room to meditate so she can go back to sleep.
I'll be going to this seminar over the weekend I hope I get an answer to my sexless life with her
I'm lost and confuse

Feb 15
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mvcmvc

Did you not make any dinner nor had your haircut, nor shaved nor were super nice to her for the previous 5 months? And that is why you haven't gotten any? Because of personal hygiene and personality challenges?
Didn't think so.

Feb 14
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- killer32
  I'm a clean guy to get a hair cut and shave it is just a "say"
  
  Feb 15
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knightlike

Naaa not lucky your good

Feb 14
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LynnLee828

I hope it works out for you.

Feb 14
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nuttymontgomery

Good Luck!

Feb 14
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youneeda

Your optimism is blinding me! Good luck, I DO hope your plan will work, although I too, wonder just "how" you think--bingo!-- today-- she will change....!? I'm sorry for your situation; you are young for that sh*tty treatment and sound like a guy who deserves much better!

Feb 14
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zsuzsilowinger

I hope I win a million dollars on the lottery! And I bet I have better odds on that one!
Good luck though, seriously it would be nice to see a success story.

Feb 14
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tacist

If you give you will get back. Make her feel comfortable and good about herself, make it about giving pleasure to her rather than her giving to you. and after that if she don't respond , if in the next few months of making it about her pleasure, if then after talking to her about what you need, she still doesn't give you what you need then seriously think about finishing it all. Good luck no sex is an aggressive act ( said by a woman)

Feb 14
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Lonely359

Good luck!

Feb 14
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bazzar

In one scenario, you - "got her a nice gift and I'm making dinner. I got a hair cut and shaved I been super nice to her all this week. I hope it works"
In another, you got her nothing, went and got McDonalds, left your hair greasy and unkempt, been a ***** all week.
I am betting your result will be identical in either one.
Tread your own path.

Feb 14
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Frustrated1978

Brother killer32
Without meaning to sound like a ***** i anxiosly look forward to your next post where you write how mean she is and after being nice to her making a nice dinner and giving her a nice gift you still got nothing.
Obviously you are new here or you have not read up. If you are stuck with a refusive partner for whatever reason you could perform saint like miracles and you still wont be getting some.
Given her bad form guide the last 5 months what makes you think she is going to pay out just becuase its Valentines Day.
I hope i can be proven wrong.
Stay Strong & Good Luck

Feb 14
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- youneeda
  Well said. Sadly...
  
  Feb 14
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