Valentine’S Day Sealed The Deal. There Will Be An Affair.Summary version…….Early evening just before dinner I mentioned to my wife that we have sex tonight. I presented myself very well, hug a lil kiss on the tip of her nose, and so on. Her response was ‘no’. Being use to be denied, I expected a no. What I didn’t expect was the tone that came with it. That no made my blood boil. Just nasty. To myself I’m thinking, no problem sweetness, you’ll never here that suggestion again and walked away. It was a pleasant dinner with my Granddaughter, wife and myself. My granddaughter was asking questions about flowers and candy as they apply to Valentines Day. While explaining about love, respect and gifts, I looked over at my wife and said, Oh, BTW…….I need to speak to you a little later about something. Whenever there was a family or household issue I always liked to do it in private without distractions from any children. I know she knew what was coming. Two times before we did get to speak asked …now? And an hour later ‘want to talk now;….nope. I threw in that I’m afraid of the way it may go. I don’t want an argument.
This delay was intentional. I waited until she was taking her evening shower.
Sitting on the edge of the bed, she came out from the shower. I asked her to sit beside me. I was very definitively about the future of our sex life. Adding to that I told her about the way she said no. Touched on marriage wants and needs. Not just sex. The outcome of this conversation was no different from other conversations. No sex for me. She did mention that its not me…….she knows it’s her. Now I give up…..I thought I had made up my mind to look for sex and intimacy outside of marriage. I just wanted to give it one final attempt. She made up my mind for me………………I’m done trying. At least with her.