Marriage Is Complete Joke
I am so happy to see this section! I can not believe how many people are living in the same situation as me. I have been married for 6 years and two small children. I can count the number of times I have had sex with my husband. Actually, when I was in college, I had a two year relationship with a young man. We made love for 9 months in that relationship. I had more sex in 9 months than in 6 years!!! The sex was mind blowing and an event we looked forward to everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. I can honestly say that the connection and intimacy and love we shared was something so wonderful. I promised myself that I would work my best to have that same relationship in my marriage. I waited a long time to find, what I thought, was the right person. Instead of going along with the valueless society and live together before marriage, I waited to move in after we were married. Well, my friends, my husband is asexual. He doesn't ********** and is not having an affair. We have gone 7-8 months without any form of sex. When I brought it up over and over again, he rejected me over and over.
He then decided that not touching me after I got pregnant with my daughter (we did it once and I got pregnant), was for the babies benefit and protection. My desire to be even more intimate with him during pregnancy, was met with complete rejection.
I have men telling me how attractive I am all the time. I was one who dated lots of men and never was hard up for a date. I never had a man NOT WANT sex. EVER!!! The joke is on me I guess.
I am staying until my financials get better and my two girls are a little older and settled in school. I have fallen out of live for my husband and I no longer consider him my best friend. The funniest part is, he thinks that "this is the way" it is supposed to be. He was raised by a fridgid mother who is an ice queen. The ongoing joke is that his father got cut off from sex 20 years ago!!!
All I can say is, it is not normal. It hurts to deny your spouse loving intimacy. It hurts them physically, emotionally and spritually. Sex is such a beautiful hting between two loving people. Why would anyone enter into marriage and do without this? Why would you marry someone if you do not want to have a sexual relationship with them?