I have read your story with interest. I too am in a situation I never thought I would find myself in. We never consummated our marriage two years ago (does that mean we aren't married??)and have never had sex since. I was 38 when I met my future husband. I gave up a good job and moved countries in order to be with him. All was great for the first three years although thinking back he did have ED issues but I didn't really think it was all that serious at the time (as you do!). We wanted a baby and visited the doctor and were told when to make love on what days etc- that was when the rot set in. I would be waiting at home on the appointed days.............but when he did come home he couldn't manage it. Then I had to have a gynie op and since that time (five years ago now) we have never made love! All that pain and money for nothing! We then visited the doctor again, to discuss IVF - if he couldn't bear to touch me maybe we could conceive that way. However after two attempts, no success. So, now I am 47 no chance of having a baby still no sex and facing a possible hysterectomy in the next 12 months. I feel so FED UP! I read about sexless marriages in a british daily newspaper this week. I did think I was the only one in this situation and feel a bit better knowing there are others but still don't know how I can resolve my problem. Any advise appreciated!