Seeking a Happier Marriage

My husband and I have been married for about a year and been together for two the problem is that in the year that we have been married we have only had sex once our sex life was great before marriage!  However we did loose a baby the month we got married he doesn't want anymore children but within the last month i have taken bc pills i do not want anymore children also but nothing has changed!  The only affection he shows me is kissing , hugging and telloing me he loves me he never touches me anywhere elese! We have had many discussions on this and he tells me no affair, hes not impotent , not gay but assured me would work on it but hes not sure why he can't be intimate with me! I asked him if he was still attracted to me but to tell you the truth I look better now than I ever did!  He said that was not the problem! I don't know what to do my husband won't have sex with me and doesn't know why! What should I do I need advice, Hes in his 40s.
confusedinmarriage confusedinmarriage
31-35, F
2 Responses Jul 29, 2007

Since I've gotten married my wife has had several medical issues and is dealing with plenty of other medical issues and because of this she has no sexual desire what so ever. It's been over 2 1/2 years since I was last able to be with my wife and it sucks. I'm not sure how your dealing your issue and your needs, but for myself I'm getting frustrated.

I just came across this post. I cannot imagine why no one else has answered you. It is not 7 years since you posted this. What has happened?

I strongly advise against staying in a sexless marriage if there is any way out for you. He is unlikely to change. There is something wrong with his libido. I am 60 and I want sex all the time. I have a wife who has only the smallest interest in sex and no interest in anything sexy or naughty. My heart breaks when I come across stories from women who are sexual and married to guys who aren't . I sometimes get mad at the creator for the cruel joke on some of us.