Sexless Marriage

 I've been in a relationship for over 10 years and we may have sex literally "10 min" every six months, I guess it's me, i'm not sexually attracted....I have to imagine other people just to get off!  Help!!

litalynn litalynn
41-45
1 Response Feb 14, 2009

I don't understand why thinking about other people is bad. When I did have sex with my wife, it was more life necrophilia since she just laid on her stomach and didn't move or say anything. I don't like necrophilia and my wife obviously didn't like sex at all with me. She NEVER told me what she ever thought of during sex or ANY fantasies. I just gave up and she is a lot happier now but curiously always seems to "forget" why I get cranky, nasty, and hate those romantic movies she watches where people fall in love and then have sex! Ah, "la belle indifferance" towards me no matter how many times or how explicitly I have explained my needs and desires. <br />
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Well, I hope that is not what it is like for you. Do you just have a low libido or is your partner happy with you?