Been 8 Months Now

All of our problems started when my wife became jealous of a woman that I was working with, just the 2 of us on graveyard shift. I know how jealous she can be since we've been married for 22 years and I didn't tell her this woman had just gotten a divorce because I knew how she would react and sure enough when she found out she went off. She figured since i kept this from her then I must've not been truthful with her about this woman. First let me say that nothing happened, not even remotely, but for the past 8 months, we don't kiss, barely talk, and for sure don't have sex, even though up until 2 months ago I kept bringing it up. It's become obvious to me that she doesn't care for me anymore and I'm a little lost and confused, I can't believe my marriage is in a shambles over this, it's friggin rediculous! I'm not sure what to do, I think we're way past the point of talking and working it out, it's gotten to the point we can't stand to be in the same house together. It's sad really that something so stupid has gotten this far out of control but I have gotten tired of "scratching my own itch" so to speak, I miss the touch of a woman. I feel really uncomfortable even talking about sex with her anymore, and that's sad, because as much as we may have fussed and fought earlier in our marriage, sex was always the one thing we were really good at. Oh well, I'm sure I'll eventually get my fill, and hit the road.

scratchinmyownitch scratchinmyownitch
41-45
4 Responses Feb 15, 2009

MissDee said it perfectly. For her to become so jealous means she cares, deeply. Have you cheated in the past or cheated on a former girlfriend? Was she ever cheated on by a former lover? I don't know your situation.

Try counseling? This sounds like a fixable communication problem. Don't let it continue down this road.

For her to become so jealous must mean that she cares for you and your marriage. Indifference would be far worse. Would time alone together, a few days vacation somewhere, help to get things into some kind of perspective? At least you'd have to talk!

If it was good before ,hang in there maybe she will come around . GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!