Been Too Long

its been too long since being intimate miss brushing a ladies hair out kissing her on the neck sending that feeling down her spine,  menopause or what been three years  and whats worse is i dont want to hurt her feelings, im a sick puppy,i am not sure if  i remember how to be intimate

flhtprider flhtprider
46-50, M
4 Responses Feb 20, 2009

Hey flhtprider,<br />
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menopause is a mo-fo ain't it! I haven't been able figure out a way around that one.... most other obstacles, no problem. It's a white-knuckle ride with teeth.... <br />
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" i am not sure if i remember how to be intimate " I'd bet, given half a chance, you could figure it out all over again. Don't give up on that ....or you're toast. Don't let the negative creep in. If you let self-doubt replace confidence then 2 good lovers will go down in flames not one.

I think I meant buddy, not body, a good thing I did not write your instead of you, the sentence would have had a totally different meaning :) <br />
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Can you tell English is not my first language LOL ?

I am right there with you body. <br />
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There is love, but not sex... It's a though choice you face. <br />
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You know you will be hurting afterward if you leave, but it hurts already being there. You know you will loose, and have no clue of what you will gain... <br />
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How can we make these choices ?<br />
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If you have read this forum a bit you will be familiar with what follows ;) the only one that can make the choice is you, the only one who can change the situation is probably only you too.... God I hate this :)<br />
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I so wish the magic pill existed, that would make life so much more easy.<br />
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When it comes to intimacy though, how about this: The best about sex/intimacy is discovering/building it with a person you thrust, love or at least feels a connection with. It's a marvelous, sometimes daunting, sometimes funny and sometime embarrassing thing... but it's never boring, and it's a hell of a journey!<br />
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You might be lucky in a way, you might get the chance to rediscover intimacy all over again! You might get the chance to redo the journey and this time, you know what you want the destination to look like!<br />
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I say lucky us for admitting our feeling and taking the steps to get a chance at redoing the journey. <br />
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(Well I say it, but I am still not there yet...)<br />
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Best of luck to you and may the journey you choose to take be a fulfilling one!<br />
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HappyTime

I share yor pain and I am sorry for you.