He Loves Me,but No Sex

Well..  my husband loves me this I know, but no sex.  It is driving me nuts.  I need some type sex. i'm young and can't figure out the problem.  He treats me great, but no sex.  I ask and he say he isjust tired.  I'm  not a small girl, bu   that has not stop us in the past.  We have gone about 7 months or it could be longer.  i try not to think about it.  I try to maintain my mind, but it is driving me nuts.

vanessa371 vanessa371
36-40, F
2 Responses Feb 20, 2009

Vanessa,<br />
I was trying to come up with something witty to write in response to your story, but there is nothing cute or funny about your situation. I'm sorry that you too are in the misery of being married and sexless.<br />
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I don't know if you toss and turn and sit up some nights and look over to see him sleeping soundly while your intimate zones burn and yearn to be attended to. I don't know if you watch movies and read books alone about adult relationships while your partner goes about life without the itch for you that you have for him. As a man in a sexless or should I say low-sex (approx. 11 times per year) marriage, I don't understand what he is doing, I just hope he comes around soon.

It is healthy to think about having sex, especially with your husband, whom you share everything else with, your home, your heart and your bed.<br />
How many years are you married? And, was his sexual appetite always this sparse? There are medical reasons for sexual dysfunctions. Perhaps he needs to see a physician. Now is the time to start communicating this with him<br />
Don't try to put it out of your mind, because, believe all of us here, that won't work .. You are who you are with the drive you have and that is perfectly OK, for you. You are not with your sexual opposite .... although you can make it work, it will take both of you to work towards that.<br />
I have heard every excuse in the book ... 40 years worth.<br />
it was never a good idea, unless it was his idea.... <br />
Don't let anybody drive you nuts!!!!<br />
Sending Blessings.