Don't Know If I Still Love Him

My husband & I have sex maybe 1 time a year and I can't take it anymore I'm a mother of 2 boys and I want to be loved, cared for touched, needed, wanted I feel like I'm a failure and no reason to be married I have a lot of love togive and I want someone to appreciate it. I m so hurt and empty, lost and feel all alone.

 

lola67 lola67
41-45, F
8 Responses Feb 22, 2009

i know some of what ur going through xxxxxxxxxx

Seasoned,<br />
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I don't see that you post helps Lola at all.<br />
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You really ought to start your own thread if you seek the support of others here.<br />
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james<br />
atlanta

Married for a long time, now living in a sexless marriage due to adultery on his part. The continued lies he tells takes it toll. Trust is very hard for me right now. It is hard to love someone who denies every thing. How can we move on. He just wants me to inciate sex and it will be all over. This has been going on for several years now. I can't make a move to leave unless he goes for a divorce first. It's a mess right now. Surviving!!!

Have you confronted your husband? Given him an ultimatum?

We all here know what you are feeling since we are all kindred spirits. There are few options available to you on this and they have all been discussed countless times here. If you choose any one of those know full well that it will change your life forever. <br />
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Do think it through this without emotion, if you can and be clear of what will satisfy your needs. <br />
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The lack of intimacy through sex in a marriage will in time cause your love to wane and ultimately it disappear completely to be replaced with disdain or worse. That is a given.<br />
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You did not say whether he is aware of your frustrations, perhaps he is not and you should accost him on the issue and see his response. However, that being said, a year is a long time to be oblivious on his part to a ripening crisis in his home.<br />
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I do wish that you wouldn't have to suffer in this dilemma. It is so sad but again it amazes me how cavalier some men are toward sex when there are many like me who would jump at the chance to feel the warmth and intimacy of a sexual partner.

I feel the same as you. It drives you crazy, with no relief.<br />
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I am now at the point of seeking a FWB. <br />
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james<br />
Atlanta

I know exactly how you feel.<br />
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I feel that way about my wife. I feel so empty towards her. I feel like I have so much to give and she is not receptive towards me or my feelings. Its incredibly frustrating. I just want you to know that I and many people here know what that is like. This is an awful situation that we are in.

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