Personal Experience

hi im pooja, i would like to ask u all that what can be be done in my life as after marriage i havnt receive ne sexual pleasure from my husband, whenever i approach him he just ignores it, i have tried to sort out this by talking to him, but it seems he is least interestedin me, it was our arranged marriage, i asked him if he is interested in some 1 other then me but he replied in negative, i m a good looking female so i think even that not be the problem for him as i know that i can seduce him very well, but still dont know wts wrong with him, so please help me n guide me..... 

poojashah poojashah
26-30, F
10 Responses Feb 28, 2009

He is in love with someone n he married you out of some family pressure.. Looks like he is unable to speak out due to social respect n things like that.. If u say, u want divorce, he will gladly give u that as he has no courage to say that n will live like that till his last courage..

Not sure if this reply is very late. Did you try counselling? I dont think religious leaders wud help, especially in India that might not be a solution

best is take a short honey moon trip, try new things with him, u are a girl u know whatss need to be done. show him, tease him but dont give him. see if it works.

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Have you thought of seeking help from a marriage councilor? Or maybe from someone with more experience in these things. Maybe its not about you or your husband seeing someone else, he could just be having a difficult time in some other part of his life and could be very stressed about it.<br />
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Best.

Pooja, as you probably have realise already, in this forum people try not to push their own opinions on others.<br />
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There is a good reason for this, any solution will only work for you if it comes from you and if you truly believe in the path you draw for yourself.<br />
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I would say this though, you are still quite young, you have a chance to avoid some of the mistake I and others on this forum have made.<br />
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You must think about what makes your life a happy one, do not bottle up you feelings, do not loose yourself in this situation. Do not fall asleep inside cause the awakening will be quite painfull.<br />
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I hope you find the answers you are seeking, in the mean time we all share a bit of your pain<br />
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Happy Time

What a difficult situation you are in. Keep trying. A day will come you will be entertained.

What a difficult situation you are in. Keep trying. A day will come you will be entertained.

Please ignore the above comment. Goodness knows why that person asked you that.<br />
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I would love to be able to help you with this problem, but as you wil see if you read the posts and stories on this site, there is very little if anything any one of us can do to change things.<br />
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I do not want to advise you to do something which might be wrong in your culture or religion, so if I do so, please forgive me.<br />
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Could you seek advice from a religious leader in your community? I know it would be very embarrassing, but al, religions expect husband and wife to have sex together.<br />
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Perhaps you could get advice about what steps you could take to release yourself from this marriage - which is not a real marriage, because of your husband's attitude.<br />
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Whatever you decide, please know you have my very best wishes.

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