Need Help Understanding My Husband

hello my husband just told me that it hurts to have sex.  that his balls hurt after he gets off and i would like to find out how we could stop this from happening.  he will not tell the doctor so i will ask my doctor because it is affecting me too.  it doesn't happen when he "helps himself"  I just feel lost and feel like this is just another excuse.  I think that he ********** too much and that it takes too long for him to get off with sex and he decribes it as having blue balls but not as bad just that his balls hurt and he has a sick feeling to his stomach.  well i'm just sick of all of this **** and that if he can't tell his doctor about it that he is makeing it up and making me feel like i should not bother him with sex and my needs because of his problem.  would like to know if anyone has had this problem or any feedback would help. 

jcue1976 jcue1976
31-35, F
5 Responses Mar 3, 2009

What Causes Epididymitis?<br />
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Epididymitis often is caused by infection or by the sexually transmitted disease chlamydia. In men over 40 years of age the most common cause is due to bacteria in the urinary tract.<br />
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What Are the Symptoms of Epididymitis?<br />
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Symptoms of epididymitis include scrotal pain and swelling. Discharge from the penis, painful urination and painful intercourse or *********** may also be present. In severe cases, the infection can spread to the adjacent testicle, causing fever and abscess (collection of pus).<br />
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What Is Hypogonadism?<br />
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One function of the testes is to secrete the hormone testosterone. This hormone plays an important role in the development and maintenance of many male physical characteristics. These include muscle mass and strength, fat distribution, bone mass, ***** production, and sex drive. <br />
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Hypogonadism in men is a condition that occurs when the testicles (gonads) do not produce enough testosterone. Primary hypogonadism occurs when there is a problem or abnormality in the testicles themselves. Secondary hypogonadism occurs when there is a problem with the pituitary gland in the brain, which sends chemical messages to the testicles to produce testosterone. <br />
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Hypogonadism can occur during fetal development, at puberty or in adult men.<br />
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What Problems Are Associated With Hypogonadism?<br />
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When it occurs in adult men, hypogonadism may cause the following problems:<br />
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Erectile dysfunction (the inability to achieve or maintain an erection) <br />
Infertility <br />
Decreased sex drive <br />
Decrease in beard and growth of body hair <br />
Decrease in size or firmness of the testicles <br />
Decrease in muscle mass and increase in body fat <br />
Loss of bone mass (osteoporosis)<br />
Enlarged male breast tissue <br />
Mental and emotional symptoms similar to those of menopause in women (hot flashes, mood swings, irritability, depression, fatigue)<br />
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What Causes Hypogonadism?<br />
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There are various causes of hypogonadism, including:<br />
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Klinefelter's syndrome: This syndrome involves the presence of abnormal sex chromosomes. A male normally has one X chromosome and one Y chromosome. The Y chromosome contains the genetic material with the codes that determine the male gender, and related masculine characteristics and development. Males with Klinefelter's syndrome have an extra X chromosome, which causes abnormal development of the testicles. <br />
Undescended testicles: (see above) <br />
Hemochromatosis: This condition is marked by too much iron in the blood, and can cause the testicles or the pituitary gland to malfunction. <br />
Testicular trauma: Damage to the testicles can affect the production of testosterone. <br />
Cancer treatment: Chemotherapy or radiation therapy, common treatments for cancer, can interfere with testosterone and ***** production by the testicles. <br />
Normal aging: Older men generally have lower levels of testosterone, although the decline of the hormone varies greatly among men. <br />
Pituitary disorders: Problems affecting the pituitary gland, (a small organ in the middle of the brain) including a head injury or tumor, can interfere with the gland's ability to send hormonal signals to the testicles to produce testosterone. <br />
Medications: Certain drugs can affect testosterone production. These include some commonly used psychiatric drugs.

While anything is possible, when I am in the heat of passion I don't know if anything hurts because the tingles are blocking out everything else. <br />
My husband has complained that I am too animated and I hurt him when I was on top and he has ED.... then transferred the pain the next day to his back... I am not heartless and won't continue if he's in pain....<br />
but I think it's said to keep us off and away.

Try Googling "ball pain after sex" and see what comes up. I haven't done this, just thought I'd suggest it. But th internet is an incredibly helpful resource for such matters . . .

My husband told me this once "that it hurts after we have sex". It was just another excuse for not wanting it.<br />
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I used to ask him if he talked to the doctor about it and he would say, oh, I forgot.

Talk 2 the Doctor , I have never heard of any such thing !!!!!