Ho Hum Marriage

I feel like I am in a business more than a marriage. My wife has 100 percent power over my sex life and I hate it . I find I do not have the drive / detrimation to make this work any more  and wonder what others do in this situation. I hate it and feel empty.
Oly Oly
51-55, M
2 Responses Aug 15, 2007

BusyBee, that may be true in some ways, but not necessarily in the way of love. Now, before you get defensive, I'm not saying you're completely wrong, but if you teach people how to treat you, then when you are nice to your spouse, or try to get your spouse 'in the mood', why would they push you away? If you continue these 'teachings' and they don't ever 'get it', then how could that be true?? I'm so curious about that because I used to believe that to...

Sounds like she has 100% of the power. This is one reason I really find it hard to ever want to have any kind of relationship with anyone. They get what they want and as long as they are happy that is all that matters. I see it in my parents and in many other couples. It makes my ******* sick to my stomach to think that this is the way people would treat others. I don't think she even loves you, but what the hell do I know. I am just some silly kind of guy typing over the internet. I'd say shake up the marriage but she would prolly gladly divorce and take you for everything you have. /end mr. negativity.