Am I a Virgin

I fell like a Virgin it has been that long.I have been married for 16 years.Before our marriage the sex was out of control.I loved it as did she.Now i have tried everything and nothing works.Not now maybe later or maybe never.I don`t talk to my wife the same anymore and that bothers me.I resent her for not having me.Is that wrong.It has been 3 years and i am going crazy i need to be held or touched.Thankyou for listening.

hoovey7 hoovey7
46-50, M
1 Response Mar 12, 2009

I'm sorry to that you are in a situation like that when you have 2 young children...it's so much harder to do what's right for ourselves when we love our kids so much.<br />
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I know what you mean about the sex being so great before your marriage and kids, this is my 2nd marriage and the 2nd time it happened to me. I don't blame my husbands because they were always "ready" back in the beginning, but they did forget how to make love to me like they were when they were trying to win me. They both became quite mechanical and obviously only looking for relief for themselves, not taking time like in the beginning. <br />
I'm not saying that is your problem, just mine.<br />
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She obviously has some serious issues going on in her head, and if you really love her because of who she is and not because she is your wife and should be available to you sexually, maybe talking to her alone would help her get some things out in the open. <br />
Just don't be weak with her, women don't want a weak man, they want someone who will be in charge of their emotions as hard as that might be for you. <br />
And if need be, and she won't talk to you, start talking about how great some of the other women are that you see at your kids games....a little jealousy can go a long way sometimes.<br />
She may just be taking you for granted, but if she thinks you are attractive to other women or find other women attractive, it might just add the spark you need.<br />
Best of luck!