We Dont Have Sex But We Are Happy Together

i have a sexless relation but not a love less my and my partner love eachother verry much.

sex is difficult for me because i  was abused as a little child and  icant have sex whitout having memories about that time. i now that it is difficult for a man to life with a woman that have been trough such bad things in her childtime.maybe im lucky to have a man that  accept me  and love   for manny other reasons than the sex.this in a few words my story the man who abuse me was my granddad i was five years and it stopped at my twelved .thanks my dear to be so patiance and for the love you give to me.I love you verry verry much!!!


albertina62 albertina62
41-45, F
4 Responses Mar 13, 2009

May you be punishing your granddad in your husband's personality, and in your daily life, unconsciously? We people generally do that.<br />
Force yourself to discriminate these two and be a sexy woman to your husband please.<br />
How long will he be that patient?<br />
Best wishes<br />

This is so sad... I wish there was a way to reprogram your psyche... so that you could react to the pleasures of sex in the full and wonderful way that sex can be.<br />
<br />
Sex can be so fantastic... though you might not know how that can be.<br />
<br />
hugs,<br />

I am so very sorry that you were abused. And by a man<br />
that should have been nurturing you. Bless your heart. I am so happy that you have someone in your life that<br />
makes you happy. Things may or maynot change later<br />
however , you continue to be blessed and happy all of <br />
your life.

Love and sex doesn't always go hand in hand. My husband has always loved me and yet sex wasn't part of our relationship for the last 7 years. I just want more from our relationship and I feel my husband and I deserve a complete loving and sexual relationship. I know childhood sexual abuse can take alot of therapy and time to overcome. I have a grandmother that hated me and to this day I don't actually know why but when she passed away I buried her problems with me with her. Good luck and enjoy what you have.