Building Your Man - Do It Yourself Kit

 I have not posted here in a while - I was so flamed that it just did not seem right to go through it one more time. 

But, I reviewed a post by "blazingcareer" - "Successful in my career - but life has challenged me", and a lot of the people who commented on his post seemed to indicate and imply that I was his wife !!! So I first wanted to correct the impressions - AS WITH EVERYBODY IN THIS FORUM, OUR STORIES ARE ALIKE, BUT WE ARE NOT RELATED TO EACH OTHER (well of course I have no way of knowing it other than the fact that my husband is so darned happy now that there would be no reason for the agony in the article)

The sad part is BlazingCareer has the same issue my husband has - his endowment is smaller than average, and he ********** soon. My God, most of Asia is like that. So what? His wife did the same thing I did - went and had numerous affairs, and then came to her senses. So what is new?

The only place where I went a different route was I honored his body, and ACCEPTED WHAT HE CAN DO - ORALLY PLEASE ME, AND BE A FANTASTIC LOVER, AND STOPPED PINING AND WHINING FOR WHAT HE CANNOT DO - GO LIKE A JACKRABBIT FOR HOURS.

So my sincere advice to his wife, and to all other women who find themselves in a particular situation - YOUR HUSBAND DOES NOT SEXUALLY SATISFY YOU THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE SEXUALLY SATISFIED, BUT HE LOVES TO SATISFY YOU IN OTHER SEXUAL WAYS. This is the situation I am addressing. Here is the the perfect solution

  1. Find it in your heart to accept the man, and how he wishes to please you.
  2. Change your desires, and don't attempt to change the man you desire
  3. There are a million ways to have an ****** - don't get hung up on a single way to have them
  4. When the man is sexual, and advances towards you, welcome him and the way the walks towards you - don't provide corrections and suggestions
  5. Let the man find his style, and accept his style and complement him on it
  6. Remember the more he enjoys being sexual towards you, you will enjoy it more
  7. You build his confidence a step at a time, and at every time, complement him
  8. Affairs break a man's confidence in himself - give him the peace you will never have them again
  9. Constantly tell him that he is the best lover you have ever had
  10. Tell him that connecting with him makes ALL ******* you have with him better than anything you have had before

You are done - you have created a tiger in your bed. It worked for me. 

If you read the post by "blazingcareer", it is so sad. The best he can do is to print this note of mine and hand it to his wife. She is throwing away someone and something wonderful she has.

clearasdaylight clearasdaylight
46-50, F
6 Responses Mar 16, 2009

Well, as a member and observer, I can understand the confusion. To date I have only seen mention by both poster, CDL, and BC of the size of anyone's equipment (much less particularly an Asian man’s) or the finesse in using it as an issue. Not to say it is not discussion worthy; though I know of those who would dispute the claim that it is a true for all Asian men (well I can guess there are MANY but I’m just working with the women/men I’ve queried about the unusual, original CDL post). I have not directed them to this site, because I feel a bit protective about the sensitive nature of sxless marriages and appreciate it is not a general discussion on sex or religion. <br />
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My take is that your issues certainly are worthy airing and finding a community with .. just seems that you may be on the wrong site /experience within EP. This is not about affairs not about sxual technique. Read around, I think you’ll understand. <br />
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And while it may come off as cynical, the sequencing of BC posts and immediacy of CDL response post, gives one pause. Hey, being sxless for a while makes one cynical .. what can I say, I’m jaded.<br />
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Good luck to you!!

Touchmenot,<br />
Ah, I see your point. My guess is if you looked at the comments on my post earlier in the day, a few citizens of this forum indicated that clearasdaylight might be my wife. So I am assuming she wanted to clarify it. <br />
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Thank you for taking the time to respond to my comment. I appreciate it.

No blazingcareer. I don't know too much about clearasdaylight. I was just wondering why she wanted to make it very clear she and you were not a family. It just kind of struck me odd.

TouchMeNot,<br />
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I am new to this community. I sense a bit of antagonism towards clearasdaylight. Is this a community dynamic or has clearasdaylight violated any group norms or ethics? Please forgive my asking.<br />
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I personally found clearasdaylight's exposition so comforting and just wonderful. It was comforting to know that I was not alone in expecting from my wife what this woman has been able to provide to her husband. It was also very comforting to know that women such as clearasdaylight exist, so I can have hope.<br />
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I understand what this forum is all about now.

Okay blazingcareer isn't your husband. So?

Bravo,<br />
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I really admire your honesty and guts. I really hope my wife reads what you have written here, as her experiences are so similar.<br />
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You are a very lucky woman to have come out of all of this with wisdom, and YOUR HUSBAND IS A VERY VERY LUCKY MAN.<br />
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I wish you both all the very best in life, and I would be lying if I said I am not jealous of this man you are married to. Despite the tears he has had, I think he is going to have the biggest smiles the rest of his life.<br />
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Please keep writing on what you do to make your marriage work, and inject romance back into it. I find your words to be very true, and I truly wish my wife would join this forum and benefit from your experiences.