My Wife Is a Good Mother, But Has Completely Lost Interest In Sex.

I live in NYC, and have been married for over 23 years.

My wife lost her sex drive years ago.. and refuses t oadmit the problem & get help...

Here is a sad, but (unfortunately) true story...

One Summer morning, a few years ago, I was with my wife in our bedroom...

She was changing, so she took her bra off...

Playfully, I started to suck on her nipple... she got excited, and put her hand on my crotch to get me hard (which she did)..

She then pulled back & said we would finnish this "later"

Her version of later was over three months later...

Its been like that ever since..

If I had the financial means, I would have left years ago...

As anyone who has gotten a divorce can tell you.. it isn't pretty...  and it can be a downright mess...

Several people suggested that I have a discreet affair...

I have been looking on & off, but I understand single people (who are in their 40's & 50's) when they tell me how hard it is to meet someone nice....

I'm not looking for a ****.. I'm looking for someone who's as cautious as I am..

Incredibly.. I have never found a woman who I felt comfortable enough with to cheat...

 

 

machinelanguage machinelanguage
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3 Responses Mar 21, 2009

Also, consider the effect of fatigue. It might not be apt in your situation, but I do know lots of women who after motherhood found themselves swamped with things to do, even if stay at home moms. It wasn't that they didn't want sex, but they were too exhausted, sometimes even too exhausted to **********. (That is if you still want to be involved with your wife.)

Is she on antidepressants? My husband went on them 20 years ago and we have had very little sex since then, mostly at my instigation until I decided I didn't want to plead for indifferent sex.

You might try..ashleymaddison.com. I have tried that route...without sucess...but you never know till you try.<br />
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You came to the right place though. their are 5000 of us listed as members on this forum....all in the same boat. It never gets better...only gets worse as time passes..causes a lot of bitterness...resentment...and hopelessness.<br />
Good luck