Nothing Seems to Work. Now What?

Ok, so what do you do when you feel you have tried everything to fix your sexless marriage? Let's set some expectations first:

1-You have kids and you are not going to leave them.

2-It's complicated and you are not going to get a divorce and take the kids.

3-Financially you cannot pay for sex.

What do you do?

I am looking for suggestions!

 

JaxBch JaxBch
41-45, M
3 Responses Mar 23, 2009

"That is simply getting involved with other men for mutual sexual sessions."<br />
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"Simply"? heh.<br />
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JB,<br />
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Yes, you're between a rock and a hard place. There is probably NO satisfactory solution to your problem. You just have to grin and bear it, or get out and let the chips rain down. That's about it, pal. Take your pick.<br />
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I do not suggest you take the path mentioned by zorbas. ;-)

You sir , are between the proverbial rock and a hard place and it is hard to give any advice that would cure your your present situation with the restraints you have mentioned.<br />
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Affairs with other wives are costly both emotionally and financially as is divorce for the same reasons. There is of course ************ which by necessity most married men and women here on this forum are forced to use.<br />
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There is one avenue which has been discussed by several here, lightly of course ,since it is someone awkward .However for some it makes some sense in that it is far less complicated and with little cost involved . <br />
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That is simply getting involved with other men for mutual sexual sessions. While I have never thus far gone that route I am simply amazed at the number of married men on the Internet that are contemplating just such a move.<br />
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Their motivation simply is that it is a quick solution of a different slant and there is no really emotional baggage that an affair with the opposite sex to deal with<br />
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Again I neither advocate this nor suggest that you do this but just let you know that the Internet is loaded with married men and women too, mostly in longer marriages that are finding this an alternative to sexless marriages.<br />
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I do wish well in what ever you do and welcome to this sexless universe here on this forum.

I can't answer. I haven't found a solution yet.