Something to Look Forward To.

Since this place is the first one I ever used on EP I hope that it is appropriate to write this here.  I too share with all of you my living in a sexless marriage.  I know that my marriage will end and I do feel sad about this fact but I also have a feeling of happiness.  Perhaps this comes from my making peace with my life.  No longer holding onto negative feelings towards my husband.  I still have my days when he irks me but I try and control my emotions and life seems much better.  

Years ago someone told me a story that made an impact on me and I would like to share it with you.  I am not sure if this story is true or where it first came into being but it is a comfort to me and I hope it will be a comfort to you also. This is not verbatim but as I remember it.

There was a man and wife who lived in a small town and they were so much in love that others would comment on their happiness.  They would walk hand in hand through this town and spend time together in a loving and tender way.  Others would look upon them with envy at their happiness and contentment.  They were always smiling and full of joy in their mutual love. This man and wife were never blessed with children but this did not take away from their love for each other. 

Once a month they would travel to a large neighboring city and take in the sights together.  Visit museums and shops and have dinner in a lovely restaurant.  Spend a day concentrating on each other and come back to their town full of memories of their wonderful time.

The wife came down with a terrible wasting illness and her husband nursed her tenderly through her illness.  Both of them knew that her days were numbered and the townspeople commented on the fact that her husband would be lost and so alone when she died and he was.  Some of those that had never shared this type of love and happiness with their mates even were petty enough to take some satisfaction in his sorrow.  Human nature being what it is.  They said that he would never again walk through their town with a smile on his face. 

As time went on the townspeople didn't see this man much and gradually they forgot about him.  Their lives were busy and times were hard.  One day,to their surprise, they once again saw this man walking down the sidewalk with a young boy of about ten years of age.  The man had a smile on his face and the boy looked up at him in happiness.  They walked hand in hand down the street and people wondered why this man was so happy. 

One day their curiosity got the best of them and they decided to ask this man who had lost the love of his life how he could be so happy?  And this is what he said. 

After he lost his beloved wife, he became hateful and withdrawn.  He felt that God had dealt him such a bitter blow and he lost faith in anything good in life.  One day as he was out driving, he passed an orphanage and something told him to turn around and go back.  He did and met this young boy who had lost his parents in a tragic accident.  The man visited this young boy several times and took him on outings and found that he wanted to offer this young lad a home.  So he did.

And once a month he and his son would travel to the neighboring city and spend the day there taking in the sights and having dinner at one of the lovely restaurants there.  The townspeople were amazed at this but asked the man that how could he be so happy when he had lost the love of his life and he replied to them "Happiness is having something to look forward to."

dartist dartist
56-60, F
5 Responses Mar 28, 2009

Thank you for your comment and understanding what this story was about. As soon as I saw who this was from, I knew that you would know exactly what I was writing here. Peace and blessings.

Feelings are personal and the story reflects the man's ability to love and be loved in return. When we see that love is as natural as breathing we will be able to move on to the level of life appreciation. <br />
"It is better to have loved and lose (that love), then never to have loved at all" ... love is a feeling of completness .. another adding to our joy of life.<br />
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Wise story, no matter the source, we can all relate to the feeling of love ... wanting it, not having it, needing it and looking forward to the feeling of completion.<br />
This kind of love cannot be decided, it just is.... HOPE SPRINGS ETERNAL. Never lose your ability to feel your feelings. Life is a journey and we all have to follow our heart's desires. Nobody will understand our feelings, except others who know the importance of LOVE.

Okay Pookie. You can take this story in any way that you want to and this is your right. I am not going to explain what I wrote here however what you wrote makes me laugh but in a positive way and I am not making fun of you at all. You probably picture me as some sex starved woman just panting for a man to jump my bones but I am not this woman. I have had plenty of offers but am waiting until a man that truly deserves me comes into my life. <br />
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As for the other comments, thank you for your gracious remarks. Blessings to all three of you.

That is so wonderful..<br />
bottom is hope for the future..<br />
If you can't believe that things will ever be better, you must despair<br />
Hope is believing that there is somethin to look forward too..It is not for us to know what or how..let the Universe take care of that, but know it will come when LEAST expected!!!!

D,<br />
Thanks for sharing---such a powerful and truthful story......Happiness is indeed truly having something to look forward to for when that is gone---well what else is there?