Sexless At 30

He's a taker, when he gives in, which is practically never.

we're not married yet. Probably never. I don't know what I'm doing here anymore.

Been together nearly five years. I'm attractive and sweet. He looks completely normal, is popular and smart.

In the last 2 years we've probably had sex 10 times.

truehottie truehottie
31-35, F
7 Responses Mar 28, 2009

Your not married to this guy. Pack up and leave. At thirty...I am sure you can still find someone to fullfill your sexual and emotional needs. Their are lots of lonely guys out there

You DON'T live in a sexless marriage. You're NOT MARRIED!<br />
so, 1) not having sex is a good thing since you're not married, and 2) GET OUT OF THERE. He's either broken or he doesn't love you. At best he doesn't know how to love you, and worst, he just doesn't.<br />
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Why stay?

you all have sexless marriages need to find out what happened! take responsibilitiy for your half of the no sex and turn it around be sexy for you and then he will see you you have to be confident about it get the kids out for the weekend and cook naked when he comes home.. ( don't care about the food)

are you sure he's not gay? i had a relationship like that he was the swqeetest guy i the world asked my mom if he could marry me and he trtied to find us a house and stuff then he told me he was gay and i any one could help him be straight it was me.

Amazingly people who are lot legally bound nor apparently without familial responsibilities still stay in sexless relationships and allow themselves to be forced into a compromising celibate life. <br />
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Why is my question? Do you expect things to change? They really never do and any affection felt now will in time first become disdain , then complacency and after the years pass will become intense dislike or worse.<br />
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There is a world of people out there that will respond to your needs and human life is only 25,000 days of which only 8000 days are yours to be awake and enjoy.<br />
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To stay in relationships where no children or other important responsibilities are required is pure masochism.

Sorry that you have found yourself here. There are alot of us gals here. It is definately not a one sided situation. There are alot of stories here from both men and women. It has helped me alot to read the stories here. Alot of insite.

Sorry to hear that. I thought women were the ones that held out from guys. Guess it's not one sided. I have been married for 11 yrs. 1st year was great. Sexlife is almost non existant for the past 8.