I've been married for 2 years, we have had sex maybe half a dozen times since the wedding, only once in the past 12 months. Before we were married we had a very good sexual relationship, but once we moved in together it slowed down to basically nothing. When we have it, it's not that great, he rushes through it so he can go to sleep. My husband has gained about 50 pounds since we met, so I don't know if it's a lack of testosterone or self esteem, he says there's nothing wrong, he just doesn't feel like having sex. I'm tired of asking and being rejected, but I miss it. I find myself fantasizing about cheating on him, I never thought I would do such a thing but I can't keep living like this. We're still affectionate, we kiss and cuddle and hold hands, but no sex, and it's driving me crazy! We've talked about it but the situation hasn't improved. I don't know what to do anymore.