Wife Has No DesireMy wife was sexually abused as a child. This has caused devastating effects on our marriage and her life. Deep down, my wife is afraid to love. She grew up in a home where if you didn't take care of yourself, you weren't taken care of. Her mother died at an early age, leaving her father to raise three children by himself. He didn't do a very good job of taking care of them however. Mostly he left them to fend for themselves. He might buy groceries for himself, but not for the family.
Anyway, getting back to the topic of this experience. Although we had a decent sex life when we were dating, it went downhill after we were married. It actually started going downhill before we were married, but after we were married it really became bad. In the past year, we have had sex twice, and let me call it having sex, not making love. When we do have sex, it is of the lets hurry up and get it over with variety.
Only once in her life did she admit that she was abused as a child. At this point in her life she tends to act as if it never happened. She refuses counseling of any sort, although she has agreed to see a Psychiatrist for medication. However, even that is problematic because she is never honest with the Psychiatrist, she tries to pretend that everything is just fine.
Anyway, that is my story. Thanks for listening.