Been There and Out of It.

Mmm interesting forum here.. I thought I was the only one facing such pathetic case... Well I guess I have no comparison about sexlife even before marriage I was a virgin. My ex husband was the first and only man ever since then until we got divorced last year December.

Since this is talking about sexless marriage I think in 8 years of marriage I can count the numbers of intercourse we had in single hand count. Naaah I am kidding we actually have very low sexualy activities as married couple.. I have no idea why and cant be too imaginative since it is not in my culture (Asia).. therefore I am totally depending on my husband then... again he failed to spice up things for us however he did get the images surfing form the net alone... so I left him and slowly it gets colder and distance finally we sleep in separate rooms for the last 2 years of our marriage.

I think the caused was basically there were no checmistry and sparks between us in the first place, and had I any idea about that I would have divorced him but I was too naive and unawarre ... come to think of it he was also not helping improving the situation at all..

I like to expand this topic to the affect after sexless marriage - in my case I got divorced! To cut the story short we were both unhappy and besides having an abusive husband in an unhealthy marriage sealed up the reasons why we had sexless marriage.

The divorced officate my liberation and I educated myself from the internet I also discover about the pleasure of ****** which I never felt in my entire marriage life ..sucks!!! How sad can that be... so with all the things I have missing I am so happy that I have the option to explore my sexual anxiety..however I also aware the unwanted diseases that comes with it with any partners or unsafe sex. As much as I like to experience safe sex, I also am very particular and selective on my partner...sadly its not as easy as I thought... getting sex for the sake of it is easy but the result may not be satisfying...So how do I get fulfilling my sexual urges without making it look desperate .. Plus I like to have it with someone special...uurgghh most guys I know online wanted to have sex ... do you need to have many lovers before you found the one that match you or can you just be satisfy with just one? 

Those were my thoughts after saying it I wonder if only I was more educated and exploratory with my spouse I could have an interesting sex life and safe my marriage.. don't you think?

But then again I disagree to that simply because I was a survived case of emotional and mental abusive marriage therefore it is not possible for me to enjoy my sexlife in the marriage.. having said that my only hope is a better man and future for me..if Gods will.