I Used To Be A Woman In A Sexless Marriage. But I Got Out...
Hi everyone, I am new here. I thought I would also share my story here.
Yes, I used to be a woman in a sexless marriage. I married very young and I am in my early thirties now.
I had a wonderful husband beneath the surface (cooked, cleaned, treated me well, loved my family and nieces and nephews) but he never wanted to touch me. I worked hard, paid all the bills, let him job hop, dealt with his bouts of instability. I tried and worked so hard to keep it together for us, but nothing ever seemed to work or change the situation. He still ever only treated me like his sister. Thankfully, due to our lackluster sex life, we never had children.
Depressed and needing to understand, I started investigating. Computers, cell phones, etc. I discovered that he was cheating on me - resorting to ****, contacting ex-girlfriends, seeing sexual escorts and massage parlors, etc. I would have never guessed this as this just wasn't his nature. I didn't want to believe it at first. I fought it. I forgave him. Over and over. He did it again and again, even when he promised to stop. Nothing changed.
The hardest thing I ever had to do in my life...was to divorce a man I was hopelessly and desperately in love with. But I had to do it. I knew I deserved more.
I was married for over a decade. This started a year after our marriage. I was heartbroken. I divorced him 2 years ago and haven't looked back once.
Run, girls, run. You are too young to be in such a horrible predicament. He may love you for the person you are, but can you really deal with never having intimacy? Take it from me, I know firsthand. It will always be unsatisfying being unwanted and kept in the dark. If only I could turn back time.
If your husband doesn't want sex for weeks and weeks, trust me. He's getting it elsewhere. You won't want to face the truth, but it is the cold hard truth.
Take it from a foolish woman like me who held on for way too long.
I'm free now. Happy. Satifisfied. And in love with someone new who gives me everything I want and need.
You all deserve the same. You need to realize that.
Good luck and feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to.