Reasons
Posted October 26th, 2009 at 12:58PM
reasons i stay, 1. money 2. fear 3. feel helpless 4. its easier 5. this has been my life 4 over 18 yrs. 6. never been on my own 7. the kids 8. the house 9. because am stupid! reasons i should leave. 1. dont love him 2. am unhappy 3. not good 4 the kids 5. hate my life 6. need so much more then i have in this pitiful marriage 7. miss being loved 8. am so lonely w/ him 9. will end up bitter 4 wasting my life. 10. dont love him n wont ever again 11. he can be very cruel 12. i have alot of medical problems n he has good insurance, i have none at my job.13. an the list goes on. one day i hope i do find the courage i need , because if i stay n this is it, whats the point of living? if it were not 4 my kids n my grandkids i would just end it know. not looking 4 pity just speaking the truth. i dont want to live like this, but i cant seem to leave.why, it sickens me that am too weak, d to do the one thing i need to do not just 4 me, but 4 my kids to. i never would have thought this is how my life would turn out.
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None of do Destiny. We never think this is how it's going to be. We all enter love, marriage and our relationships with so many hopes and dreams of what life is going to be and when it falls short, it hurts.
Stop beating yourself up. You are not weak. Fear is natural. Someday you will find the strength you need to make some very necessary changes for yourself. -
Destiney, those lists are a good start. Can you start planning how to cope with each thing on the "stay" list and work out a plan to "go"?
Your emotions are very important - can you see a counsellor to help you work through the fear and other emotions?
As for the things like money, house and kids - can you start working out exactly HOW you could cope if you were to move out? Sometimes it all seems hopeless when you look at the big picture, but if you take each thing and work on it little by little, it might not seem so impossible.
Remember that the longest journey starts with a single step. . . . -
Whoa honey! We're in almost the same boat, except I only WISH my marriage was sexless!!! Don't be talking about "ending" anything except the crappy marriage though, girlfriend. Work on your self-esteem & finding a way to support yourself as soon as possible! Sh**, my pain just walked in...
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