Now What???I am going to try to make this as short as I can - so please bear with me.
Hubby and I have been married for 8 years. Our sex life dwindled slowly and then 3 years ago stopped. I ignored my desires and tried to be understanding of my husbands medical problems. He has used Viagra since before we were married and in the end sometimes that wasn't enough. I am attractive and sexy looking and frequently "hit on" by other men in my work or just out and about. I had told him in the past that other men would stop me and proposition me, but we would just laugh about it and that was all. He never said anything about my appearance etc in a very long time. I would ask "Doesn't this look good?" or "(daughter) picked this out for me, what do you think?" He would always say "Yes, it looks good." Nothing more.
About 8 months ago I had a few "encounters" and came to the conclusion that I was not going to live like I was 80 years old like my husband. I look like I am in my mid 30's and I do not want to waste any more of my youth lamenting about what I don't have.
I did not properly clear my secret email account one night and he read some emails with a current "friend" I had at the time. (I don't have this friend any longer) NOW, he is insanely jealous, follows me around like a dog, has lost weight and tries to work out at the gym. He is seeing a psychiatrist once a week and is on meds. We are starting couples counceling. But . . . to me the relationship could be beyond saving. I have been neglected for too long. I did not intend to divorce him until the children, he is the step-dad, until the children were grown and gone, another 5 or so years. IF we have sex now - it is terrible. Now what???