I have been married before (hormones outpaced inteligence.) My current H likes to throw it in my face that my x's (yes it is plural) were both without ambition. We live in a nice house, we got a good price on it since my parents built it and sold it to us when they were ready to move, much nicer than what either of us were in before. The other day he was stroking his own ego at my expence, saying I could have stayed married to either one of my x's or stayed single and be living in a dump. That if it weren't for him I wouldn't be were I was now, that he could be like them and we could be broke. I just lost it and told him to just shut the f*** up. That he is not a perfect husband and until he was to just back off.
It was at that point that I decided that yes I am definately leaving him, I would rather sell the house and move to a not as nice home in a less nice neighborhood than to remain married to the self righteous pig. I have enough talent and skill that I can make any home beautiful as long as it is structurally sound.
He is more concerned (in love with money) than he is in building a successful marriage with me. Every time I ask him to spend time with me or do anything with me, he says we can't afford it. He never understood that he couldn't afford not to. There is more wrong with our marriage than just the lack of sex or intimacy and I don't see any way that it can be repaired.
I am taking some online courses and I hope it will enable me to find a job were I can afford to support myself.