No Sex After Wife's Stroke
We had an active sex life before my wife's stroke in 2000 and life was full of cuddles. She was very seriously affected by the stroke and remained in hospital for over half a year. Since then she has made some recovery but still relies upon an electric wheelchair for her mobility and has a cognitive deficit . So for the past 9 years I have been her carer with the support of social services home care visits. Since her stroke she has been very resistant to being touched in any way, let alone sexually. She does not have any sexual feelings, though she says she still loves me and I believe her. She now has other health problems, particularly a hiatus hernia that bleeds from time to time causing anaemia and sometimes she vomits black blood and ends up in hospital.
So after 9 years my relationship is much more that of a carer of a difficult person rather than husband. The associated stress has resulted in depression and me losing my job last year, so I am now working on establishing myself in self employment. I've thought of leaving, but feel too committed to do so. That doesn't stop me thinking how to restore romance and sex to my life. So do welcome other people's thoughts on this.