Feeling Inadequate

I have the most wonderful husband in the world, except I am worried that he does not find me attractive, or even worse, does not love me. He rarely wants to have sex with me, and he only does after weeks go by when I complain or cry. I am overweight, but workout all the time. I try to watch what I eat. I was overweight when he met me. Anyway, I just don't understand and am very upset about this.

LovesJeanValjean LovesJeanValjean
41-45, F
6 Responses Feb 10, 2010

LJV - I was being extremely sarcastic about taking Toby's advice, because most of us here knows all that stuff is BS. If you read other stories and forum topics here, you will see.

Thank you for your comments. I might try Toby's advice, but my husband is so distant from me that I will have to work my courage up. I will not leave him since this is our second marriage. He will not leave me either. I cannot go through a divorce again. I just have to work on not loving him so it does not hurt so much. It will get better, it just takes time. <br />
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My first husband never wanted to have anything to do with me sexually. I was thin then, but it didn't make any difference.

Nah, just take Toby's advice.... Yeah, that'll fix ya right up. Dang, I wish some of us had thought of that stuff before.

Thanks for your comments. Now I will try to work on living my life accordingly.

If Jean ValJean does not want to have sex with you, then he does not love you. He does not deserve a "get out of jail free" card in this department. <br />
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So, tell us: What other crazy things does John do?

well, he loves you. Do you desire sex? Maybe he is not in sync with you. You can spice things up. Instead of crying for sex, try to blow him in the morning. Try something new. Try to talk dirty, but sexy. Hire a personal trainer.