Sexless Or ?..
Soul Mates do not go through these issues, at least not for long. Perhaps why we all did get married at the time we did, we all had different reasons. A true marriage is meant to last and all issues will be worked out if the couple is truly meant to be. Children or no children, an unhappy environment is NOT a reason to stay together. Because then, your children grow up with feeling a burden that your unhappiness was somewhat their fault. Sometimes we jump the gun in this thing called marriage. Sometimes 2 individuals grow at 2 very different paces. And it is true, we all talk about the sex on this forum, but we are implying all the intimacy and sound interaction of a wonderful relationship as part of or natural process to having sex, with the person you "love". I guarantee you, when we look at sex only, we can stray and have 'sex' only and still feel empty, because it was only sex.
Which brings us to the real dilemna, it is not the sex we truly seek, but the true aspects of two people in love, which includes lovemaking. When sex becomes a chore, perhaps we are asking too hard for it. Not only asking our partner, but more closer to the truth, asking ourselves to just fulfill a pleasure. When it is more than pleasure we are truly seeking. As one who has been on the sexless path for many years in a beautiful marriage, I completely understand and identify with the feelings of rejection and the missing the feelings of love. But I have taken a trip on another level, a little over this physical one, to discover myself and am learning new things that I can apply to life. As soon as I focus on who I am and what my true purpose is on earth, I become an individual who shines. That shine, inspires my mate to be interested in me and naturally, the lovely process of interchanging love, in all aspects of the word happens and it is in those moments that I realize, I have been chasing an empty ghost all this time. I do recognize there is still a physical detachment of my mate's mind and body in terms of sexuality, but that is HER issue and only she can wish to fix it. I on the other hand, instead of groveling and begging, just to get mercy, empty sex, realize how lame that is and look for deeper growth. Now, if one just needs the sex for pleasure, one can get that by themselves, through spousal mercy sex or outside the house for that matter, but you will soon realize, SEX is not what you wanted. You want true happiness and that usually involves no conditions.
My friends, focus on self-discovery and reattach yourself with your source, not only will the answers come, but perhaps your questions will change...