I Haven Had Sex For The Las Three Months N Am Married

MY WIFE HAS REFUSED TO MAKE LOVE TO ME SHOULD I GO AHEAD AND GET INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP.EVERYDAY  SHE COMPLAINS OF HEADACHE .PAIN IN THE BODY .TAKE TO HOSPITAL  NO DIAGNOSIS ON THE CONDITIONS SHE IS COMPLAINING ABOUT .WHATS UP PEOPLE

bobodiu bobodiu
31-35, M
4 Responses Feb 21, 2010

Hmmmmm,<br />
I'll sound like a woman hater here, but I also need a little venting.<br />
It's my belief that MOST women are just like this!!<br />
I started a new relationship after 42 years of trying all I could , to understand my wife. ( I have to say that I still love her very much!)<br />
I am now in a 4 year relationship with a lady who could not get enough contact. NOW, she's doing the same things. I'm sorry to say, that MANY of my friends and others I have talked with, have the same stories. I'm REALLY tired of all the suggestions about how we men need to come to an understanding about how to approach our ladies with romance and understanding!!!!!!!!! I'm NOW thinking that the women NEED to get hold of themselves, and COME TO THE UNDERSTANDING that THEY need to contribute to this sexual relationship also!!!!!<br />
There, I really hope many will comment on this raw subject.

Start doing the little things for your wife. Tell her how much you love her. Let her know she beautiful today. Try giving her a passionate kiss without it leading to sex. Women tend to see sex as a chore especially when you have been in relationship for awhile. Take some time to listen and care about what she is saying. Repeat it if you have to. In time of doing little affectionate things you will regain the passion in her.

You are too young for this sexless garbage. You never mentioned any kids in the family so I will assume that there are none. As such, I recommend that you leave.<br />
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Just start packing up your stuff and do not bother telling her anything. Let her find out you are gone the day you do not come home and only then will you tell her if she calls or tries to find you. Otherwise, do not look back. Pretend she does not exist. Seriously. <br />
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Refusing or losing interest in sex is a mental problem that NOBODY has been able to solve and you are not a psychiatrist. Sometimes it is worse, though. Sometimes refusing is a deliberate act on the part of an evil spouse. Run away from it if you can!

I take wedding vows very seriously so no, I don't think you should just jump ship over three months. I think you need to probe deeper to find out A) if there is some rare weird physical problem or B) then what is the emotional problem in the marriage. <br />
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Maybe you're leaving some crutial details out, but based on what you've said I really think you need to investigate further for not only your marraige, but her health. Maybe it's been years of very little sex and this isn't a new thing...maybe you've tried every specialist and therapy method there is, but from your post it sounds like just a 3 month dry spell where she's obveously either physically iill or emotionally upset about something.