Flannel Pj's To Fit Your 'roommate' Marriage.
Recently, I purchased some sexy, new lingerie. I hadn't done this in well over a year plus. Lingerie, in general, used to make me feel soooooo good about myself. I've worn it for years to please my partner as we went to bed. However, when I became a "roommate" and after nights of rejection and crying in the bathroom, I finally threw most everything away.
Lingerie was equal to pain.
I made this purchase for a special reason; however, it turned out to be unneeded. So, since it contained memories of days past, I returned these things recently. It felt good to take control of the pain. During the process, I was still looking.................just because you don't have the lifestyle doesn't mean you still don't adore lingerie and the way it feels. Ha!
This "piece" was exquisite. Pure quality. Very unique. And bargain priced.............such a challenge and right down my alley. I stared at it for way too long; however, I was smart. I put it back on the rack. No need in my life. But, first let me describe the most beautiful piece of lingerie I believe I've ever seen! It was black........see through short baby doll, hitting probably at the hips. Classy to the T, it had a beautiful high neck trimmed with a gorgeous beige silk ribbon at the neck which came to the back in a long, streaming bow. The front, even with the see-through fabric also was highlighted with a huge pearl-drop cut-out hole to leave nothing to the imagination. So sexy! The back was even more beautiful.............it flared off to an open back, with only the beige bow being featured. The thong was trimmed in see-through black with beige silk bows interlaced and sewn throughout the panty. Although it was beautiful, it was not made for me. It was made for a woman in love and being loved. It was made for someone who has a man who appreciates her in lingerie and wants to enjoy her body because he can't keep himself off her..............the lingerie has excited him that much. And, she feels absolutely stunning.................ready to give herself to her loving partner who she will give everything to...........her love, her body, and her soul.
So as I left the store, I thought of who might purchase that beautiful, stunning piece of lingerie and how treasured they might feel in it. I was jealous, I must admit.
Then, I bought myself some pants/matching top silk pj's. They feel soft against my skin and "fit my lifestyle!" lol I wore them the next night and of course, my roommate never noticed I even had new pj's at all. I didn't expect for him to anyway. Things were at peace. His body never touches mine, as usual. Silk or flannel, he would not know.
I believe those of us in sexless marriages should probably learn to become comfortable with where we are in life. Lingerie makes me depressed at present. So, while I won't resort to flannel, feety pj's quite yet....................I believe pants with matching top may be just the perfect thing. That way, I'm kept warm and I don't think of feeling sexy for anyone.
Now oddly enough. I do believe in sexy bras and panties. That's another story..............I'm out among other people. In case other nice-looking, intelligent men have X-ray vision, I hope they like, and are attracted by, what they see, beneath my clothes. There's something sexy about wearing lacy bras and a matching thong to make yourself feel sexy inside, despite how you are dressed on the outside! It's my own personal secret of self-preservaton.
Yes, the lingerie buyiing days are over at the moment. But, perhaps one day, I'll find another reason to purchase these things again. I'm a hopeless romantic, but I am also realistic. Right here, right now, I'm in the matching top/bottoms stage. Life goes on...............
Save yourself the pain. Keep your pj style to fit your bedroom style. You'll keep yourself a lot happier, in the long run.