Not Exactly Sexless... You'll See

OK so my husband and I both want to have sex, but the problem is, he wants sex w/ me and I want sex w/ someone else.  No specific someone, just someone who is better in bed.  My husband has a wonderful **** - its big and thick and just deeelish looking.  What is the problem you say?  He lasts for 2 minutes at a time.  The other night he went for 10 mins and was really proud of himself.  Of course I pat him on the back and act like I am fine with it, but I'm looking for other men to **** me right, also.  I am the one who doesn't want sex - I try and hold him off but he has a really high sex drive and I have to give in sometime to get him off my back!!!  I like doing it in the shower b/c then I don't have to spend 10 minutes cleaning up after a 2 minute *******.  Guess I should be happy for what I have, but I'm not ok?  I want a nice big **** to **** me hard for a long time.  And I will get it.  *sinister laugh*

mellonamin mellonamin
26-30, F
14 Responses Mar 4, 2010

Mellonamin,<br />
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I think here everybody thinks his problem is the greatest.So the talks about searching donkey etc.She has got some problem but the way is different.She has got a **** to **** her but not sufficient for her neither she wants to give her husband time to do sex with her.As enna says both of them should go to a nice thearopist.<br />
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Other thing Mellonamin thinks herself bi but did not yet have any experience about it and is blocked in those thoughts and that may be the reason she is not getting satisfaction from her husband.<br />
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Sexless means not getting satsfied form the sex.Here I think her husband is leading a sexless life.

ThingV, you made me snort coffee up my nose. <br />
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Mellonamin, listen to Enna. You chose to get married, so be an adult and address the issue with your husband.

I don't normally do this but... <br />
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mellonamin, please put "troll" into Google and see if this rings any bells with you.<br />
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I won't post on this thread again.<br />
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M

Golly gee. What in the heck are you doing here? You do not impress us at all. Get real. You do not belong here! Grow up. I am sick and tired of immature people like you. Live some life and then write a story. If his **** is not big enough for you then find a donkey to f*#k! Some comments have been a bit kinder but I will not be one of them. Have an affair. Go for it but do not expect any sympathy from us who have endured sexless marriages for years. You have no idea what real life problems are.

Mello, you said yourself "we have sex a couple of times a week". This is NOT a sexless marriage. You are unhappy with him as a lover. He is still wanting to have sex with you but you are not finding it very satisfactory.<br />
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Time to get your grown up shoes on (yes, you might be 26 but you are acting 17). <br />
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1) explain to him that the sex is not satisfactory for you - do this in a caring way and don't blame him<br />
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AND 2) encourage him to join you in marriage counselling with a recognised sex therapist<br />
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OR 3) leave your marriage.<br />
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Talking about how you are wanting a "big ****" makes you sound like a teenager "talking dirty" to shock the grown ups - and believe me, we are unshockable on this forum.<br />
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If you want to post about your experience and what you want to do, please find the right forum. Surely you can see that this is NOT the right forum for you?

I don't need to 'grow up'. I realize that I am half your age, but 26 is well into adulthood, and I feel like I'm 16 again saying that to my mother! I appreciate that your experience in a sexless marriage is different than my experience, but maybe you should open your mind and REFLECT on the fact that other people do not live lives to fit within your own set ideas of how situations play out. I DO live in a sexless marriage, and I am not making light of your experience or anyone else's. I had the same attitude towards my marriage that many of the other members in this group now have: sadness, shame, and a feeling of unworthiness. I got over it! What is the point of wallowing in our own depression when we are still amazing people with so much to offer?? I realized that since my first posts on EP, and although my recent first attempts at an affair (I went from thinking about cheating to actually taking action to cheat) fell flat, I know what I want and I'm going after it! If that offends you, fine, go ahead and say that! If you think I'm a ***** and a liar (to my husband) then fine! But please don't tell me that I'm posting fake anonymous experiences just for kicks. We all come on here to pour out the thoughts in our heads that we can't tell anyone else - why invalidate someone else's life by calling it a fabrication?

Reflections<br />
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Reflections3,<br />
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Reflections3,<br />
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You are not considerate to others who are honestly in a Sexless Marriage by fabricating these stories on different experiences.<br />
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This is not a joke ....<br />
A sexless marriage is heartache and misery<br />
You are looking for adventure .... <br />
Go have your fun and leave us alone here.<br />
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You my dear need to grow up.

Wow, you older folks are rather cynical. Seen it all, huh? Well believe what you want b/c obv I can't change your mind, but I didn't come on this site to lie. Sometimes situations are strange! Thanks for the luck btw ; >

Well, that sounds lovely. Thanks for sharing and good luck finding a different ****.<br />
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And yes, you are either making up this story or the one you wrote in the "Think About Cheating" group.

Oh we have sex a couple times a week. Its hard to keep him off me for that long! We've been together for 2.5 years and at first it didn't bother me b/c he can get it back up quickly and we'd just do it 7 or 8 times. That was when we were young and high all the time. Now I work full time, we have a daughter, and I don't even drink let alone smoke. I'm too tired and stressed out to just let him do me over and over! <br />
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CDVA... are you saying this story is made up or that I'll make up a story of when I finally get ****** right? Just clarifying :>

LOL, good one. Make up something juicy and share it, we like that stuff around here.