I Am Full Of Love And Passion But My Wife Is All Out Of Love

I have never opened up like this about my marriage and sex life before but it has got to a point where I don't know what to do. Both myslef and my wife are 49 years old and turn fifty in July only a few days apart from each other. We have been married for nearly 26 years and up until the last 4 months we have had a very active sex life. I am not the kind of guy who thinks about himself in the bedroom as I have found out over the years to satisfy my partners desires first then mine. But lately things have change overnight with my wife no longer interested in making love but would rather start an arguement. I thought that I always satisfied her desires and I always asked what she wanted but now I am at a total loss as I beleive I am one of those old fashion type of romantics that tells their wife a few time a day that I love her, kiss her passionately and as often as possible and let her know how much she means to me. I don't know if it is anything to do with menopause as she will not talk to me and when I do try and talk to her she just doesn't say anything. I always though we had a fantastic sex life but now I am wondering if it was all an act and she is trying to tell me in her own suttle way that she now longer desires me. I know I am not Mr Perfect and have a perfect body but I am just an average overweight man who has tried over the years to make myself more desireable. I beleive that a person should be loved for who they are and how they make the other person feel both inside and outside of the bedroom.

turtle1107 turtle1107
46-50, M
3 Responses Mar 9, 2010

You don't think she would get offended if she knows that you went to her sister about her lack of sexual interest and her irritablity? If anyone, she should be able to hear it from you, the one that is directly involved, as well as her lifemate<br />
You could even say to her that you thought of going to her sister because you wanted to choose the most gentle appoach, but felt that it was too personal? I don't know... is your situation such that you can't talk to each other?

Thanks for your comment. I believe if I told my wife to go to the doctors and have her hormones checked she would probably wouldn't listen to me but she would if one of her sisters told her. It might pay for me to have a word with one of her sisters so they can bring up the subject.

It really does sound to me that it could be hormonal, also her irritation and impatience can be hormonal, it's a catch 22.<br />
If it continues do you think she will go get her hormones checked?