Why Can't We Tell Those We Love?

So I have tried now to talk to some of the people in my life about this, none of them want to hear it and then they stop talking to me for a while because they feel awkward I ask for their support and am left dry. This group I joined not expecting support just an outlet for the frustration, and to know if maybe I was crazy and that really there was nothing wrong. But instead I think I am making the closest friends in my life here.... It really is amazing!

boredbedroom boredbedroom
26-30, F
2 Responses Mar 10, 2010

Hi boredBedroom. I just joined tonight and yours is the first story that I've read. I am glad that I have found it. For more than 10 years I have been wondering what is wrong with me. I have read that women like self-confident men, so I wondered if I was good enough. I have wondered if I am tall enough, long enough, mature enough.<br />
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Before I got married my wife and I had a healthy sex life, but about 8 or 9 years in, everything changed. My wife became disconnected from our sex life. I have stayed faithful, but the loneliness I feel in marriage is far greater than the loneliness I experienced single. If you have gone through or still are lonely, feel free to contact me. I'd love to just chat. Hope we can help each other in this group.<br />
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Ciao for now.

BB - welcome to the club, eh? It's weird, but there's a twisted sense of peace in knowing other folks out there are suffering the same fate; that you're not flying solo. It doesn't solve the problem, but it validates our sanity. And it's helpful to hear what works and doesn't work for others, and occasionally a success story (some longer-lived than others).<br />
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The anonymity here helps, a lot. It gives us the confidence to share and ask things we could never do in real life - not even from our doctors. Even if you just need to vent, folks here "get it" and lend a sympathetic ear. Write on!