I Took It Down

I had a pic up and took it down because of fear for him.... He doesn't deserve to have other people know his kryptonite....

Just know that I love you all and my heart goes out to you.... and myself.... Tried and failed to have sex again  that is what 3 x a day for 10 days so about 30 rejections..... Funny thing is that I sometimes think if one of us cheat it will be him.... He tells me he never had this problem before....  and that I just don't make him feel desired enough, and I don't act like I enjoy sex enough.... So I never tell him how much it sucks, and I do my best to help it improve, He never offers any suggestions or ideas and in our two coming up on 3 yrs of marriage, he only initiated sex for the first 3 months of that and at most 10 times since then..... I at least try.... His penis doesn't cooperate.....  Funny thing is when I stop trying to have sex with him, the times I give up then he blames the whole shebang on me.... Sometimes I feel like I am just banging my head into a wall only to stop and find someone waiting with a hammer....  Anyway it is all really lame.... Someday I might get the grit to leave........ I just don't see it.... because all in all after the sex stuff is out of the way he is a really great friend.... Still it may take him cheating for me to leave....

boredbedroom boredbedroom
26-30, F
5 Responses Mar 11, 2010

oh and as for me not enjoying it enough he says that when his penis goes flat

So either I try to seduce him 3 times a day and get rejected or he says I'm not being sexual enough... I can't really win here.... I used to be really sexual but then he would cry because he couldn't perform... Or tell me I needed to lose weight or get angry and tell me it is because before we were married before we had even gone on a date I had sex with some one else, and he just feels too pressured (of course he wasn't a virgin either.) He refuses to have foreplay I have to do all the work to get him up and interested and then mount as fast as I can before he goes down Honestly I doubt there is a girl out there who would enjoy that....

....and he might be right. You said that he thinks you act like you do not enjoy the sex. <br />
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What I am asking is how does this blame come about? Give us a script with actual dialog and describe the context.

He blames me by saying I'm just not sexual enough and whatever....

How does he blame you?