A Sexless Relationship...my Experience.

I married my childhood boyfriend when I was only 16 yrs. old.  We were  in love and happy with each other in everyway for 23 yrs.  He fell to his death while he was video taping the construction of our "dream home".  I was so grief-stricken that I wanted to take my own life and I imagined I would never love another man.

However, within a short time, I ended up meeting the man I'm still in a relationship with after 16 yrs.  Prior to the last couple of years, we had low to moderate sexual activity.  Now it's a done deal.  No sex, he doesn't like  to discuss it, no physical affection, ziltch.

When I am told I deserve better and I should not have to endure this problem in my relationship I think "why not?" 
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3 Responses Mar 22, 2012

Well said,& I totally agree!! life is too short to give up something as pleasurable as lovemaking!!

Thats for you to decide, sometimes a great friendship can equal a fulfilling partnership, sometimes it can't. Only you know how you feel and what you desire in your partnership. I know I want my partner to be with me in every way possible...I am at the age where there are few pleasures left in life...can't drink, or smoke or eat comfort foods, as they negatively affect ones health. That last healthy ex<x>pression is lovemaking...I know I'm not ready to say goodbye to that and it will force me to find a partner that wants the same~ good luck to you~

I think love is different from sex. If you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him - if he is the person whos bum you see yourself wiping when he is 95 - and if he is the person you see wiping your bum when you are 95 - then what is the big deal. Sex is just sex. I have only been with one person my entire life - and right now we have young children so we honestly don't have the time or energy for sex. I miss it - yes - but for us right now it just isn't going to happen. I will say that if for some reason it was never going to happen again - I would miss it a lot but my husband is my husband. Love is not the same as sex. . . Just my thoughts.