My boyfriend of 6 years is a hoarder. The last 3 years has become a problem. I can't even go into our bedroom as it makes me have anxiety. My driveway looks like a car lot and the basement, I can't even talk about. The other rooms I MAKE sure they stay tidy. But I am in a no win situation. I can't figure out why he would need 20 different kinds of flashlights? I can't walk around the bed, it is flowing up to and over the bed, the floor maybe has a square foot of carpet I can see. I should note his parents house is sort of the same. Can't get in the garage, or back porch and bedroom is a disaster. Like me I think his mom, keeps the other rooms in order. I have read that it is sometimes inherited. Unfortunately my 13 year old son is showing some signs and I do not know what to do. My BF sometimes tells me it's my fault because I didn't let him buy a bookshelf, ( he has 3 in the Bedroom ) that you can't even see. I can't see why I wash & fold his clothes to have them thrown on the dirty floor. He is personally clean. Not a problem there. I am sad that he doesn't care enough to want to sleep in a bed with me at night. ( I sleep on the couch) We have 7 cars that don't run, but he always says I'm gonna fix them. and heres the kicker, He is a SUPER handy guy. He can fix the cars. I just don't know what to do anymore and feel as if I am mad all the time.