So Why Am I Going For DivorceSo why am I trying for divorce now... We did briefly go together to a hoarders support group. And it helped bring home to me some truths about my wife's condition and our relationship. So in the light of that, it has to be divorce because - I'm worried that:
1) My son is missing out too much - nowhere to sit for homework, no chance of bringing friends home etc.
2) My wife's occasional and illogical tantrums, often related to clutter, could get worse.
3) My son is learning a bad lesson about how a relationship should work, because we aren't able to discuss the important things in our lives sensibly or to make sensible decisions about them.
4) Our living environment could take a turn for the worse - mice we could not get rid of, or a breakdown in the heating we could not repair because the pipes are under clutter all through the house.
5) my son is at an age where he can change quite quickly and he could up sticks and leave, which I certainly wouldn't want. And clearly this had happened for some other hoarders at the support group.
6) I would like to feel psychological "ownership" of my own home. It doesn't have to be an exclusive thing, but at the same time, I don't want to feel excluded.
7) I would like proper chairs to sit on, a table to eat from or put down my laptop, and a place I could bring friends back to.
8) I'd like to have a proper relationship too.
9) Because I've lost all faith that there's any chance of my wife's condition improving.
10) Because I don't want to sleep with her - even if the "marital bed" were not completely inaccessible - we can't even open the door to that room.