I met this man,41, and he was wonderful while courting me then once he came to visit,it seemed his moods were very drastic from happy to extreme depression to the point of him sobbing profusely about dying alone,being cursed with bad luck,wanting to change and knowing he's an a**hole,but doesn't like being one.However,he demands for people to accept him for who he is,love it or leave it,and his opinion and feelings only matters. And then he wonders why he has no real friends.He takes all his anger for everyone else and doesn't vocalize... out on me.He'll ask me a question of how I'm doing then judge me and scold me. He'll ask for my opinion, then when it's not what he wants to hear he becomes furious and begins yelling and cussing at me.I feel like he nit picks just to have something to fight about. If I don't answer him in a certain way,tone or time he freaks. He'll say something and if I ask for clarification,he freaks out.He tells me not to do certain things he doesn't like then does the exact same action he complained of himself. When I react the same way he did initially,he still freaks out and says I'm crazy and disrespectful. If I bring his behavior or my feelings of unhappiness to his attention,he shuts me out,but tells me communication is sooo important in a relationship.He never seems happy and always negative..around me.But when in the company of others,he's cool as a bee,until he starts drinking,and becomes obnoxious and billigerant,which is everyday.He says he has to live with so much pain emotionally and that's how he copes,but judges me for smoking one cigarrete a day and says I need help. He's always telling me how I feel when I don't feel the way he says I do and when i beg to differ he becomes enraged.He says depression runs in his family and he knows he's mentally unstable,but refuses to get help.He's very contradictive with his wants,needs,and desires.One moment he lovesme to death then in the next..he's cussing and yellling at me for sitting the wrong way or my tone of voice,which is always calm,however he feels I'm being disrespectful.