Choosing to Stay With a Bipolar Spouse.
I have been married to my husband for 16 years. I married him for many reason. He was fun, and we had many things in common. He had anger and control issues, but I just thought...I don't know what I thought. Who knows why we ignore things about people we love? I had been living with the ups and downs. Never knowing what mood He would wake up in. Good day? Down day? Hate me day? Anyway, a few years ago he had a major break down, and was diagnosed bipolar. The diagnosis was an eye opener for me. It explained so much about his behavor. He was on the meds his counselor gave him. For a while. In fact he lied to me for many..many months after he stopped taking them.(thats anouther very long story) Considering I had noticed a difference in his mood swings and many small things like grinding his teeth, or the mean face he wears around when he is in a down swing. I was not happy about him going off them. The lies just added more stress.
I have thought about leaving, but I love the jerk. I stay because of a vow I made. I wouldn't want him to leave me if I were to get sick. I stay because the good days are good. The middle ground are the days I see the smiling man I married.
I have done a lot of research on bipolar everything. It helps to know as much about the bipolar you are with. There are clues and trigers that you can see, and feel. Can you prevent a manic or depressive event? No. But I am learning how to read him. Some days, like yesterday, are hard.
Anyone have any tips on living with Unmedicated bipolar in denial? Let me know!