I Live With Unmedicated Bipolar Spouse

Living With Bipolar

By: Bipolarhubby

Written on March 7th, 2010

My wife suffers from Bipolar Depretion for the past year, to top it all we lost our house and is currently in a very bad economic state which just makes it worse of course! I did not understand that my loving and kind wife turned into a monster at times and then the next moment be as pathetic as can be. I made a lot of of mistakes. How do I handle this? How and what should I do to make her life easier, it is obviously hell at the moment. Please help?

By: Bipolarhubby

Age: 41-45 , Male

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Gray51

My daughter in law is bipolar she has not been to the doctor for it but we know that is what her problem is oh! and she give my son pure hell she be about to drive my son crazy, I have told him over and over that they need to get her under the doctor but so far that has not happen so he keep going through what he go through with her. I mean it is real bad.

Mar 24, 2012
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- nonethewiser
  I understand your concern from your son. He has a mentally unstable person in his home. Your assumption about her bipolar disorder seems ignorant though. If you are not a doctor you have no reason to diagnose someone. If you are a doctor you should understand the reasons your diagnosis is not being received. Regardless of how bad things are in your sons life it is your job to support him, not push him. Bipolar disorder is difficult to deal with on all levels, for the diagnosed and those around them. You are not helping. If you have to tell someone something over and over you should stop telling them and start guiding them. You are doing nothing but adding stress to an already stressful situation. If your son does have a wife that is Bipolar support is the best thing to give him. That is what both of them need. Your post offers no positive advice to the user that started this thread. You used it to vent. This thread is for people looking for help and support. Take your negativity elsewhere.
  
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tmahar1

What to do if your spouse refuses to get professional help? I have been married to my best friend for 9 years. He has always questioned anyone's intentions to cause us harm. This past fall, wow it is Fall again! A year ago he started to become very paranoid. By February cameras were installed to capture anyone coming to either our front or back door. He self taught himself physics this last Spring and Summer. In March he threw me out of our family home. He has a very strong ego of his correctness and my failings. He self medicates using his pain medications etc. He initially denied remembering how it came to be that I was leaving (ie he verbally telling me to 'the sooner the better') but when he found out that I was saying this he countered with that I left him. At the time (as in that day and at least a week to follow) he stated he kicked me out because he came close to hitting me. He consistently accuses me of harming him via his dreams his money and his life. Is there any hope at all ??

Oct 9, 2011
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tmahar1

What to do if your spouse refuses to get professional help? I have been married to my best friend for 9 years. He has always questioned anyone's intentions to cause us harm. This past fall, wow it is Fall again! A year ago he started to become very paranoid. By February cameras were installed to capture anyone coming to either our front or back door. He self taught himself physics this last Spring and Summer. In March he threw me out of our family home. He has a very strong ego of his correctness and my failings. He self medicates using his pain medications etc. He initially denied remembering how it came to be that I was leaving (ie he verbally telling me to 'the sooner the better') but when he found out that I was saying this he countered with that I left him. At the time (as in that day and at least a week to follow) he stated he kicked me out because he came close to hitting me. He consistently accuses me of harming him via his dreams his money and his life. Is there any hope at all ??

Oct 9, 2011
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disguised

Was she diagnosed by a Dr.? Bipolar Depression doesn't just appear. There should be signs of extreme highs and then extreme lows. Is she happy, happy and all is good and great and then fly into unexpected bouts of anger, irrational behavior? I agree with the poster that stated that you don't want to be an enabler. If she doesn't take her meds. it will have a profound effect on your relationship and your lives. It's not fair for you to live under those circumstances. Don't let her off the hook. For the security and sanity of your marriage, she needs to seek medical help. I wish the best for you.

Mar 8, 2010
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tropwen

While things are really bad financially,if you leave her now she will not get well.if u love her help her get medicated and counseling

Mar 8, 2010
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mariedbates

I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR GOING THRU.I HAVE BIPOLAR AND MY HUSBAND SOMETIMES GETS UPSET WITH ME NOT TAKEING MY MEDS.BUT JUST TRY TN BE SUPPORTIVE.GOD BLESS US ALL.

Mar 8, 2010
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GoodMan67

I have lived this. Bi Polar hubby, the first thing you need to do for your own sanity is make sure you don't do things in a codependent way. It is easy to be codependent with an un-medicated partner because you just want peace. But that will cause a ton of problems in the end.

Mar 8, 2010
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