I'm So Tired Of Hearing That I Look So Young

I get so frustrated hearing from people that I will be so happy one day to look so young for my age. Well that's nice, tell me I look young when I get older, not now when I'm 25 and I hear from everyone that I'm 15. Why do people think that saying this is a compliment when you are only in your 20's?

One time I was at a makeup counter with my mom. The woman at the counter was waiting on my mom who got enough makeup to pick out something free. My mom told me I could pick out something and I had been eyeing this specific eye makeup so I said, " I would like to get this product" to which the girl replied, " OK well let's open it up and see if your mom approves." Are you KIDDING me? I was annoyed. I told her that my mom didn't need to approve my makeup because I'm 25. She tried to laugh it off but I must say it felt good to make her feel a bit uncomfortable. I hate that whenever I buy alcohol I constantly hear that I look 15 or younger. I use to just brush it off but after years of hearing this I just get annoyed. People need to come up with something else to say.

I also love the question: " What school do you go to?
" Oh I graduated a while ago." (Thinking the inquiring person is talking about college)
" Oh, well then what high school do you go to."
"Umm graduated from high school a long time ago too. Let me help you out, I also graduated college and I've been working for 4 years now in the real world."

I've tried makeup techniques, styling my hair differently, and I don't dress young for my age so I'm at a loss. I feel my size might have something to do with it too. I'm short and thin. Has anyone found some tips or techniques for making yourself look a bit older without it looking like you are playing dress up in mom's closet?
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69 Responses Jan 17, 2011

Not in your shoes but being a 18 yr old guy its literally the most demeaning thing for someone to treat you like your not. Being 5'7 and looking about ******* 15 in the most superficial world is a joke, for me especially when your at uni (the most sociable place) and I just don't fit in

girl, I FEEL YOU. I'm 25, have my bachelor's, and I'm a critical care nurse and cannot express how discouraging it is when my patients make me feel as though I'm not taken seriously by saying things like, "are you the student? are you old enough to do this?" I just went to a high school play with my younger cousins and I felt like I belonged in the student population. my only comfort is what everyone has been saying; that I'll appreciate it 10 years from now. granted, I'm 5'1" so i am relatively child-sized..... if you find a solution, let a sister know!

I have the same problem I'm a 15 year old girl when people think I'm 12 or younger. I try to check if they are looking at my hips or something because women have more women shaped hips. I am only 4"9.

Hey, I really thought that I was the only person in the world going through this. I'm so relieved to find that there are others going through the same thing. I honestly feel like I stopped aging after 13. I'm currently 16 y/o and people think I'm 12. The freshman at my school think I'm one of them even though I'm a junior. Some of the freshman look older than me. I hate that when I go to a restaurant and order something from the kid's menu the server doesnt even question my age. I'm afraid that because of my youthful appearance people won't take me seriously once I enter the professional world. I'm also scared that people will think I'm a child when I go to college. I'm hoping that I'll have this overnight transformation and suddenly start looking my age. The most embarrassing thing happened when I walked into class, which was filled with a bunch of seniors, and someone shouted, "She looks like a freshman!" I could have disappeared right then and there. I'm praying to God that puberty will hit and cause me to look older. I do think that it's rude for people to comment on your age/size but they don't understand that they're being rude. They're most likely just shocked. Society doesn't think that being skinny and looking young is a negative thing.(There's countless weight loss programs and anit- aging beauty products to prove it.) No offense to everyone who is in their 20s and 30s and still look like teenagers but I hope I dont end up like you. That is one of my biggest fears. I have alot of goals that I hope to accomplish and I feel like my youthful look will prove to be a stumbling block. For those who are struggling with looking younger than your age, I hope you learn to accept/embrace the way you look one day.

This post is SO me. I will be 29 in a month and only now am I super happy to be told that I look young...in fact I even get slightly offended if I don't get carded or if someone thinks I look over 18. LOL. But when I was a teenager and up until about age 26 I got so annoyed hearing this. For one thing when you hear it from everyone it's like 'I know, and I've heard it a million times'. When I was 18 and traveling alone on a plane a woman said I looked but 12. When I was 22 and out with my parents, crying in public after an argument with them, a young woman who might have been my age or younger asked me if I was upset because my mommy was scolding me??? lol. When I was 25 a couple of people thought my then boyfriend in his late 30's was my father... all embarrassing and awkward situations. I worked at a law office a few months ago and a few clients mentioned I looked too young to work there, didn't seem to trust me with documents as I looked to them like a high school student with an after school job, one lady asked my age and said I looked no older than her 16 year old daughter. A few weeks ago at the airport when I asked for directions the man asked "how old are you sweetie" then laughed and said "oh i'm sorry, you look so young" upon me saying I'm 28. Let me tell you it feels so good when you can actually begin to brush it off and even welcome it. I have grown so accustomed to looking and feeling young that I kind of fear aging now -__- ...so we're lucky to look so youthful for as long as we've been able to, and hopefully into old age. I understand feeling very insecure about this. When I was trying to build confidence it made me feel as though people were trying to put me down when they felt the need to tell me I looked like a child. I wanted to feel and look like a beautiful young woman. What good will it be to look younger when I'm 50 if in my 20's I don't feel sexy and beautiful but instead like a kid, is what I thought. I really don't understand how people think its okay to say this to somebody. It is not a compliment when you're in your 20's and are told you look 14. I am petite and have somewhat small and delicate facial features. I have felt like a freak even, like some kind of weirdo when I would tell people my age and they could just not believe it. It was the most frustrating thing so much so that I started lying and saying I was younger, so that I wouldn't have to deal with their reactions and like someone else said, I felt I got more respect seeming like a mature young person instead of someone older who looked like a kid.Well, the good news is, at least for me, I don't have to wait until I'm 50 to feel good about this. As I get closer to my 30's I'm happy I could pass for an 18 year old, and I'm grateful that I look younger than my age instead of older. I have seen other girls my age who already look much older. Embrace it and learn to love it because it's actually a pretty cool thing. On days when I'm sad about something I can cheer myself up...'well at least I still look like a cute 20 year old'. I can still pull off many of my favorite, fun looks. Kind of silly I know, but it's fun to pretend I'm some kind of magical girl vampire :P Celebrities even are paid to stay looking youthful and we kind of already have the fountain of youth. Consider it a blessing.Projecting confidence will also positively affect how others treat you regardless of how young you look. That one is still hard for me, I still feel insecure sometimes but I keep this in mind. It's also not a bad thing to have when I'm feeling down about my accomplishments or lack there of thus far in life, which I try not to dwell over as comparing gets you no where, but it's like a nice little bonus to look young. You can look at it that way. It also helps me to put things into perspective and make caring about my body and health something very important to me. We all inevitably will age and I'm not going to lie I want to delay the aging process for as along as I can. I want to treat my body well and care for it. People who live a healthy lifestyle usually look younger and continue to be active because they still can, they can continue to be young and alive in a sense, and I look forward to this when I'm older as well as now.

I feel you. I'm 18 and a few women have been saying I look young. I'm tired of hearing people saying that too. I'm about 5 1/2 tall.

Someone has probably said this...but wait til you're 31 and people think you're 21 or younger sometimes...it does get annoying. And yes size probably has something to do with it. I'm 5'3".

I can't wait for this.

I'm 25 now and I was just told I look like I'm 14. I get told that I don't look my age all the time, and no one ever believes that I actually am 25, which is one reason why I hate telling people how old I am. I'm about 4'10" tall and I am very petite. I believe this is why I am constantly told that I look young. If I were just a little bit taller and weren't so petite, I would probably look my age. We should feel proud that we look so youthful (even at 25), so I don't know why I let it bother me so much. Maybe it's because I always feel as though people are trying to insult me or put me down when they tell me that I don't look my age. It's almost as if they think I'm weird, or as someone else mentioned: a circus freak, for looking so young even though I can't control it. I guess it's somewhat comforting to know I'm not the only one in this position even though I wish none of us had to go through this.

I'm 18, in my country we finish school at 16 and I graduated from college also, I work with elderly people and the other nurses treat me like a child even though a lot of them haven't even finished their diplomas, which I have, it's so annoying!!!

I completely get this. I am 23 and look 14 most of the time, 16 on a good day. I took a few years off before going to college, so now I'm a senior, but I still get asked if I'm a high-schooler taking college classes. I keep hearing "You'll love it when you're 50," but I want to feel beautiful and respected now. Do I have to wait 27 years before I can start feeling good about myself? I've stopped trying to dress my age and just wear whatever because I'm tired of people thinking I raided my mom's wardrobe. I honestly feel that I get more respect when I play along and people think I'm a really mature teenager than when I try to tell them how old I really am. It's depressing and I've pretty much given up hope on ever getting a date. I mean, what guy is going to go out with someone who usually looks like they should still be in middle school?

I'm 23, I get told I look like I'm 14 or 15, here's the worst part, I'm engaged to a 6 foot bodybuilding lumbersexual type he turns 25 this fall, once he was mistaken for my dad

I get called kiddo and i
m 35

Im also six feet tall. But i have large wide set eyes.

You are sooooo lucky to look like you're younger than your own age. I am 34 (will be 35 in two days) and most people tell me I look like I'm around 35. I've had a few people tell me I look 23-30, but I think they're just saying that to be nice. I've even been told I look 40 once.This probably means that when I'm 60 that I will unfortunately look like I'm 60. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I eat right and exercise and I'm thin. To make matters worse, my boyfriend, who is one month older than me, passes for 18-23, and he tells me he wants to pass for 35.I don't get taken seriously either. I don't think how old you look matters in how you get treated, it's your personality that matters. At least when you turn 50 you won't face age discrimination, because you'll look like your 30. I would kill to look like I'm 10 years younger than my own age.

I'm 30 years old yet everyone thinks I'm in high school. I wish I could tell you that it gets better into your 30's. You have the fountain of youth; just go with it. Be lucky you don't look older than your age (which I sadly know many women who look at least a decade older). Confidence is key. Assert yourself with confidence and have confidence in yourself. Correct people when they assume otherwise but be gracious (which is apart of being mature). You and I possesses beautiful skin/features which women around the globe pay hundreds of thousands for. Be thankful and yourself. At the end of the day, the only one that matters is how you feel about yourself. Confidence is maturity. Embrace it! ;)

I have also reached my limit of being told or being treated like a child. It's so annoying! I know people don't know any better because they have always looked their age but I still find it insulting. It is always a topic of conversation when I meet people at social events. I get carded for everything from scratch off tickets to cough medicine to alcohol and I am 23!!! And it makes me mad when my own family is like" guess how old she is?!" Like I should be in the circus or on freak show or something! Ahhh so tired of it. I do try and be appreciative of my genes but it just get annoying after so many years of the same comments on almost a weekly basis. We are all on the same page here! Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way!

I have been going through the same thing, walking with my husband and other women asked if he was my dad, and I am a year older then him. It's very frustrating, but I know that I will never need to go for surgery to look younger like most of them

I'm having the exact same problem! I'm 22. Nobody is going to believe I am nearly 23 lol.

I was just at Costco and went to get a sample and the woman stopped me and said "You have to be over 18." Honey, I've been over 18 for quite a while now. It sucks!

People think I look about 16 and almost don't believe me when I say I just turned 24. It annoys the hell out of me when people treat like a kid when I'm not. And worst of all someone said hopefully I'm not one of those people who look young until they look old... :s Totally freaking out now! Am dying to look like an adult! :P

I'm 22, most people tell me I look my age to my early 30's and I never have to provide ID!!

However on facebook I have this random weirdos tell me I look 14-16.. And it's just like how the ****? It annoys me how ignorent some people can be !!

And are you saying people tell you you look 15 at a bar? Well that's descrimanation and should be addressed!

And what annoys me the most is not being heard!! The randoms who say it to me say looking young is a good thing. It's not , and these days why would anyone wanna look like a teen smh!!

Heigh5 has nothing to do with it! I'm 5ft9,turned 16 a few days ago. I look 13.... Im curvy, its so odd! Its just that I have natural golden blonde hair, big blue-green eyes, fair, pinkish skin and baby cheeks.. any tip? I've consjdered dying my virgin hair black, but I'm allergic... its so odd; specially because I have a older bf..

How about trying to check out your 14&12 yr olds from middle school and being told "sweety sit over there for a moment". Wait 10 minutes while 3 other parents who came in after you check out their children, hop up and say "excuse me I need to check out my daughters". And have the office workers say "you have children in this school? Are you sure your at the right location?" Nice, no consideration or respect and if the way I was addressed is how students are it's no wonder why schools have discipline issues. Children are learning attitude from the school! I'm aware my 5'3" height, 110lbs, and relatively smooth skin lend an idea of youth. Like I still have growing I could do but darn people ask more politely please, you may be speaking to an adult and even if you aren't you should try to show children how to be polite! Thanks! And I believe genetics mixed with life style choices keep that look or perception of youth on a person. Frustrated 41 year old 👩

Wow, I look bout 10-11 even though im 15 (nobody ever believes me when I tell them my real age) but I thought it would just sort itself out when I got older! Reading these comments I now know thats not true :(

Hmmm.... So you guys having trouble eh?
okay here is why you look young

1. Your eyes. The larger the eyes you have the more cute you will look and the more cute u are the more young you will look

2. The gap or distance between your eyes and eyebrows...
if distance is larger the more younger you look.

3. Jawline is more clear in teens above 15. (it is one of main reason for looking younger for boys.)

All these 3 reasons are the main problem. NOT HAVING MUCH WRINKLES ON YOUR FACE IS GOOD. But everyone have some wrinkles. If you have glowing red cheeks then you might have less wrinkles but i have told you the 3 main reasons.


1. Its good to look young the thing you can do is just see in the mirror and lessen the area between your eyebrows and eyes by moving them a bit downward (and stop moving them more downward when you find then you start looking a bit serious or mature) and don't open your eyes wide instead just for sometime close them a bit (not completely).
2. Your hairstyle matters too. You should have longer hair from the front (not too much long like girls have), so that you may not look like you just have had a baby cut from the front and comb your front hair such that your forehead is covered at least half.

TRY IT AND TELL ME THE RESULTS. I am just helping in the best way :)

I think I have everyone beat so far. I am 44 and people think I am in my 20's or less! I really need advice about how to change this situation. To make matters worse, my husband is about 10 years older and has white hair. People must assume I'm 20 and he's 40. The looks from other people are so disconcerting. I have two children, one will be 10. What do they think, I had him at 10 or 12? People can be really cruel and judgmental. They don't know anything about us, yet assume the worse. They look at me like I am a gold digger and my husband a pervert. Teens look at me in astonishment because they see me with a man that is perceived to be like my father. No, he's my husband of 15 years. It's just so frustrating.

I stumbled across these posts because I have just recently hit my limit on the ' you look like a baby' comments. My husband is 15 years older and I am about to be 31. So when I friend tells me that I look like a baby, its' an insult. I have 2 kids and its rather condescending to tell a mother of 2 that you think she is only 12 years older than her eldest child. So I am looking for empathy and ways to deal with it. Best of luck. I feel your pain

Just don't look at people faces searching for their reactions anymore. If someone insists on making eye contact with you, just say "Any problem?" or "I'm 44 years old!". But you should also consider that sometimes people are not thinking what we assume they are. I'm a dark skinned Brazilian and, when I was in Europe, as I had already read a lot about anti-immigration sentiment, I was sure everybody was looking at me and accusing me of being an illegal immigrant or a Muslim terrorist (I look a lot like Pakistani or Indian people). From the day when two people told me I looked very young (19-23) on, I became pretty sure that everybody was looking at me with my daughter and accusing me of being a teenager father. Besides, once I was in a diet and, after I lost 13 kg, I was sure everybody was looking at me and thinking how slender I was! :-)

I had that problem for years!

I'm 23 and I get the "are you 16?" All the time it is frustrating. I'm a college graduate and working professional who always gets the "what's that little girl doing here?" Look.
Next time we should all respond back to the rude ones with "oh my, you look so old" hahahahaha that will teach them. :)

Enjoy your youth!

I'm 22 and i look like 14. I'm also a graduate and i got the same comments as you. I'm fed up with people telling me i look small. They make me feel low and inferior. I'm always nervous to go somewhere new koz i know i'll be getting such negative comments.

I get that look too when I've worked in offices. I'm 28. It does get frustrating and makes me feel weird and bad..but I was totally thinking about making snarky remarks at the rude ones like "thanks, captain obvious" or "ok old man" :P

I'm older, 62, but everyone thinks I'm in for 30-40's. I use Clinque , and still I smoke. What gives.

I'm 23 and look 40, u can imagine how I feel. Its heartbreaking and I really hate myself.

I'd rather look that than young.

I am currently 17 years old and am 5'0" already taller the my aunt and grandmother so I think I'm already done growing. Me and my friend went to her open house at her high school and we went into to her one of her teachers class room and he had asked us "What are you guys fifth graders?" I look like a 12 yr old plus I have had a fifth grader ask me out. I don't think my looks will ever catch up to my actual age. I was at restraunt one time and my older sister and younger sister both got "adult cups" and I got a kiddie cup. I'm sick of looking like a little kid. I don't even have much " curves". People look so shocked when I tell them my actual age.

Thats the same with me. I took my little cousin to a play group (with her mum) the carer signed me in as a child and asked me in a cute voice if i wanted to play outside (im 23). she thought i was 12! But in general people think im 15 or 16 and thats when im wearing heels, makeup hair done etc. This is so annoying, my boyfriend looks a bit older than me too and people tend to say why hes with me.
People tend to underestimate you also and look down on you. I feel i always have to prove myself, therefore i cant rely on my looks, which is a good thing.

yeah ..actually this sooooo frustrating...i am currently in 12th grade and while i was talking to my newly married bro's wife ...she asked me which class i was in..and my cousins told her to guess ...i was told her not guess too low ..she said 9th grade whole of cousins burst into fits...the worst part is that now i'm scared of going to collage and face life now on...

This so relatable! I'm 18 years old but I always, ALWAYS, get called a 13-15 year old. This past weekend I was on vacation, and in Dominican Republic the drinking age is 18. When I would go to the clubs/bars with my friends, all of them entered like it was nothing. I would always get stopped and carded for my id.
The other issue is with guys. At the pool I would always get hit on by 14 year old boys. It's frustrating. But I'm grateful, because hopefully when I'm in my 30's I'll look young! Perlas of not having to get any Botox or collagen to look younger

I feel the same way! Im 18 and I e been called 11, 12, etc. I was buying a lottery ticket and I said I wanted three, the guy saix I needed my mom! Im just like, uh, Im 18 here... I showed hi my id and he laughed it off. Then one of my friends for a while, a medic, he overheard me talking about when I might move out and hes like, wait, your not 11? And he even had me say by birth year out just to check. I hate this, its not a gift. Whe I flirt with guys my age, theyre not interested cause they think im not legal! Scratch that I cant even flirt. Id just look like a kid with a schoolgirl crush.

I'm facing just the same situation... I live in a country where it is normal to leave your parents' house when you get married, I'm 21 and going to college. I have to travel for 1 hour to get to my college and sometimes when I am done with my daily lessons I stop by my father's job so we can go home together, yesterday the building where he works hired a new security officer and he didn't let me go into the building because "he couldn't let underage people to come in". I felt so frustrated, I have gone there hunders of times and he wasn't the first officer who told me that. I told him that I am 21 and he didn't believe me, I showed him my ID and he didn't believe either! I had to call my dad so the officer would let me in!

In college most of my collegues don't take me seriously. Each year I'm always mistaken for a junior student when I'm about to finish all the courses of my career. On February, when the first semester's lessons began, a guy who was giving a tour for the new students, invited me to join his group for the tour, I felt so frustrated when I told him that it was my fourth year as a student in that college.

And once, I when to the movies with my boyfriend and the girl who was selling the tickets asked me for my ID, but she didn't asked my boyfriend for it, and I am older than him!!

A year ago, I went with my family to Miami for vacation, my brother is underage, so when we were leaving our country, my parents paid his underage tax, we were doing the line and the officer asked me if my parents had already payed my tax! and when we were coming back from the States, another officer asked me if I was 12 or older.

I understand the argument that most people say, "When you become 40, you'll look younger! ", may be they are right but it is really frustrating by now. I feel that I'll have to show my ID everytime I want to get a job or something!

Mistaking someones age is NOT the same as making comments about someones appearance or lack thereof. Saying "how far along is the baby" to an overweight woman is not the same as walking up to the same person and saying "jeeze lady you look really pregnant!" And after discovering that she isnt pregnant continuing to say "oh well you just really look pregnant, at least you look young enough to have kids!"
That is the same thing that people do when they make their ignorant petty remarks about a persons age related appearance. Its not always so innocent of a mistake.
I am 21 and the owner of a succesful local business, i drive a fairly nice car, and i act professional everywhere i go just as any man of business should.
People pathetically harrass me about my young appearance on a consistant basis, making petty comments like "daddys money buy you that car" or (when dressed in business attire) "you all dressed up today buddy"...i digress
But bottom line is that it is pretty demeaning and quite irritating. I have found it helpful to cope by having a chip on your shoulder and knowing where your head is at. Dont let people weigh you down.
"Happiness is governed solely by your mental attitude"

So after reading through these responses I would like to point something out. I'm 21, and I get mistaken for a 14 year old on a daily basis. It's frusterating to say the least.

But here's the thing, half of you are getting angry at people for honest mistakes and you can't do that. ANYONE would rather look younger than older for thier age, even though only those of us that actually do look younger know the pain, so we can't take our frustration out on those that are just making honest mistakes, now if they know you're older than you look and continue to make rude comments, then let the a**holes have it ;).

I have the same issue. I'm 34 years old and have worked in the public library for 9 years. I still deal with patrons that come in and ask me if I'm volunteering as a school project.
I get the "you will love it someday" speech on a regular basis. I've heard that now for 15 years and have yet to agree with it. How do you get people to respect you and listen to you when they think that you are a 16 year old???

I am 31 years old, and I've been carded for liquor ever since I turned 21. I've had people ask me if I'm still in high school and you're too young to have a 12 year old son. Ummm, I graduated from high school in 2001. I've had guys in their 40's not want to date me because they say I look too young. Very frustrating!

Looking young as a guy or girl is wonderful, sure it's annoying when you're in your twenties but think about when you're in your 30's and in your prime. You look like you're in your twenties and can have any woman/man from 18-45+. If someone is narrow-minded and refuses to even talk to 30 yr olds, you can just lie to her/him and tell her your in your twenties and get your **** on. It's not like you'd want to marry that kind of narrow-minded person anyway. So yea, just wait. Women don't age as gracefully as men so trust me, you hit the genetic jackpot! One day, you'll see that I'm right.

You are all lucky that you are female. I'm in the same boat but im a guy. Looking young as a girl i think is a good thing. A lot of guys like it. A 26 year old guy looking like hes 16-17 on the other hand, well you can imagine how much more complicated it is.

I am currently 26. I've been getting comments about how young I look since before I can remember. I didn't take it too seriously until I graduated college and became a young professional. In my first professional job, women would come up to me and ask me if I had a degree and I would reply "yes, a bachelors in public relations" and one woman asked if my degree was a four year degree and I told her yes.. A bachelors typically takes four years to obtain. She then told me I looked too young to have a degree. I felt as though I received less respect because of how young I look. But I always just carried myself professionally. I also had an interview once where the interviewer asked me if I really had a degree "because they check those types of things" and I said yes I really do and she told me that I look so young. I clearly did not take that job. At a work event/fundraiser that I helped with two weekends ago, I grabbed my purse from under the registration table and a volunteer asked if she could help me and I kindly said sorry just getting my purse and she said so rudely "oh I thought you were some child!!" And then I grabbed my lipstick from my purse and the other volunteer told me I was too young for lipstick. I just replied that I am 26 which is old enough for lipstick and both volunteers just stared at me. I am engaged and last weekend I went to a triple a vacation expo and I went to one table and asked if there were more brochures of the offerings (I only saw one and didn't want to take her last copy) and she said some rude comment about it. My aunt then interjected and said "she is looking for a honeymoon, that's why she is curious" and the woman said in the most rude way anyone had ever commented on my age: "HONEYMOON?!!! What business do YOU have getting married? You look like you're about 12 years old!! You are not old enough to be married." And I said "actually, I'm 26" and she continued saying she didn't believe me. I was so offended. My aunt and mom stood up for me and said their ages and asked if they looked that age and she didn't reply and then my aunt and mom told the woman I just have good genes. Then we went five tables over to a cruise vendor and was asked what I am booking a vacation for ... I said "I am booking a honeymoon" and he said "a honeymoon? Do you have a man to marry for this honeymoon or were you just thinking you would book a honeymoon and see what happens?" And I said ... "Yes, I am getting married August 2 and need a honeymoon to follow that wedding.. And then I walked away" .... Idiots.

Please tell me you called their supervisors and complained? I probably wouldn't have been able to hold my temper haha.

Im 35 years old. I got carded once for buying a imvu card at walmart. You need to be over 13 to buy one. I showed the manager my id. I gained 25 pounds in the pass year and a half. I dont have such a little girl figure anymore. You could try gainning some weight. When my back is healed from a sprain i had, im going to lift weights again.

Be glad you look like a teenager and not like an aged woman in her 40s.

Its not fun having peopld tellyou youde not old enough to do something even though you are.

I'm and engaged 28 year old college graduate with a professional job and I frequently get mistaken for someone in there early 20's or worse, in their late teens. Last year when someone at work told me I looked like I was 12 (I was 27) I almost cried but this year when someone came begging to the door of MY house for donation money towards anti-fracking measures in my state and asked me "if my parents were home" I was at first too shocked and upset to say anything but my real age but after he left I walked through the neighborhood looking for him, found his supervisor, and got him removed from his volunteer begging job for insensitive comments. Recently someone at work commented I was too young to get married, well I was able to nicely tell her that saying someone looks young is not a compliment. Especially since I knew she had a 26 year old son who was getting married. We now have a nice working relationship. My point is after years of reverse age discrimination and disrespect, I have learned to either nicely correct those that didn't realize they were being derogatory (like the co-worker) and get even with those that were just plain disrespectful and ignorant (like the door-to-door solicitor). The only good thing I have noticed is it seems to be getting better for me as lately I have been mistaken for a 24 year old which after being called 18 for years, I will take it.

Sounds like the volunteer made an innocent mistake. Nice work getting him removed from his job. You sound like a real winner.

"Please reply with authenticity, support and respect."

Clearly you didn't read and/or comprehend that part.

Its true though. I mean, I never complained that far, I get called out for being 11 when im 18 but I never tell the managers. As irritating it is, it was a mistake.

Getting him sacked was a little harsh...
Its quite easy to make a mistake and its not like he was particularly rude about it either.

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When I started reading your post, it was surreal at some level because I had never imagined someone else going through the exact same problem.
I have been facing this since I school. I am 22 now and I keep getting it every single day.
"Which school do you go to?" I work for rural development and am doing my research in the field which requires me to stay in jungles and villages for months. And then they look at you like "what is a kid doing in a jungle? Oh wait, are you lost?" WTH. It is annoying because you're possibly smarter and more sensitive than most highly endowed 'older' looking people your age but you're hidden because you look young. Darn it. But anyhow, keep up the spirit ya'll. I guess we shall find another young looking companion for ourselves and together you shall beat the bejesus out of the 'older' looking people. haha. Power to you.

hi i new to this forum and would like to Sher my story . i am almost 30 and constantly getting told i look 16 17 or 18 if iam lucky .
it has bothered me all my adult life. the old line of ooh you don't you look young its so frustrating . i have found a very good way of dealing with this witch i would like to Sher with you all . what i now do is reply with is . do you no that is the 1st time i have been told that ( with a sarcastic tone . or sometime i would ask there age and reply with o i would have said you was much older.
it may not be the kindest response but it may make them think next time they say such a stupid remark

i m 20 nd i luk lyk i m 12.i hate it wen relatives tat i havnt met for a long tym show up nd says tat i m not chnged at all since they last saw me.i m v sensitive abt this stuff.tats why i dnt lyk going anywhere,i ve v low slf esteem,tats why i avoid meeting people nd come off as stck up to many.i ve a little anxiety bcoz of this thng.i m 5'1" nd people call me cute bt i m trapped in a childlike body i want to luk like a grl not a kid.smtimes i evn cry because of ths.

hey same problem in here u know what i am shorter than u :( ...n come on i wish i were 5'1" so be happy i'm more affected than u :)

I am 21 and experiencing the same problem.. earlier i never used to be bothered much, when the waiters would serve alcohol to all my friends but me, whenever i would be mistaken for a school student etc. . It never bothered me. However, I'm doing law and in my country there is a notion that lawyers/judges should be tall and loud..("how else would you look like a person who's able to defend herself?". I'd be fighting a case, not a war, people!!! Only because of the career issue, I wish for the first time in my life that I were taller. Please tell me it's not important to be tall to be a lawyer......

Yea im 26 and went to a football party with my parents, we get there and are offered beverages and then they look at me and mention all the non alcoholic beverages, my mom laughs and says no I know she wants a mimosa and the host looks at her and says well is she old enough and before I could answer the lady said well doesn't matter as long as it's ok with mom and then I said I was 26 I think it's ok, she just looked at me funny. It can be really depressing I don't want to be told I look 18 or 19, I just want to say you have no idea what iv done since being that age, I own two houses, I'm a sergeant in the army, iv been to war, I go to college to be a nurse and iv been a EMT. Its just very degrading but iv always been nice about it, my mom looks like my sister, people laugh when we tell them she's my mom, it probably feels good to her but at my age I don't want to look young I want to look my age.. Very frustrating

I'm seventeen and a senior and my mom is a teacher. I came into her fourth grade class once. Her student teacher thought I was a fourth grade student. The only hint that I haven't reached puberty are my DDD breasts. So I totally know how you feel. It's frustrating and embarrassing.

Iam a Mom of 1 yr old and i feel really happy sometimes when ppl say that you look so young....and sometimes i feel really upset..

Trust me, I know how you feel. I'm 24 and constantly get told I look 16 or 17 (18 if I'm lucky) and I'm sick of it. It's made me so introvert and I really hate going to job interviews because I know they will comment on it. We shouldn't really be worrying about things like that at our age ffs.

I have experienced similar things being 22 I am often mistaken for a high school student. I usually get asked what grade I'm in and I answer "I graduated college" I don't really get angry over it because I have never cared about what other people think of me, I've always thought it was just kind of funny. I am 5'6" with a round face, medium weight, and look kind of nerdy. But what has happened lately is that when compared to my 18 year old sister is people think she looks older compared to me, so I'm a little concerned about her self image getting affected by how I look.
I'm a bit of a know it all so people usually rely on me when they don't know how to do things so I have always been respected where ever I go. People also tend to ask me questions, which maybe because I wear glasses. I think in the end when you look young you got to earn peoples respect more than if you looked your age (sadly). The biggest thing to do is just don't care about what people think and just do what your own thing.

I'm going to have your exact situation when I am 25. I'm 15 (16 in a month) and I look like I'm twelve. It's extremely annoying. I volunteer in the kids' program at my church, and the eight year old volunteers always try to make friends with me. Not that I mind, it's just that I hate when they ask how old I am and I say "16 next month" and they're completely in shock. A few guys have liked me, but they're the desperate types. A lot of guys tell me I'm pretty, but I guess none really go for me because I look too young. Another thing, I have braces which doesn't really help. I'm almost fully developed with bigger boob than most of my friends and I'm naturally skinny. I'm going to be a junior in high school this fall and I'm tired of resembling a preteen. And I am absolutely sick of hearing "But you're so teeny-tiny, little, small...."

I'm in the same situation. I'm less than five feet tall. People always tell me I'm cute. I wish I didn't look like an 11 year old.

sometimes i really hate the word CUTE

Same situation here! I'm always told that I'm cute (guys and girls). I hang out with, what i perceive to be, the most good looking crowd, because I'm taken to be one of them..but guys never ask me out. Clearly, they take me to be "cute" like a kid

Wow I realise that are lots of people both male and female in the same boat. I am 27 years old male but look like 16 I guess. Only about 5,7 and 140 lbs with a baby face. I get so sick of the same comments enjoy looking young why it lasts..Enjoy what??? not being taken seriously by 99% of people not being able to get girls my age cuz they dont want to date a kid. Not getting younger girls 18-22 because they find out im 27 allmost 28 and that creeps them out..ya so much to enjoy. I try to no let the comments made behind my back bug me but its very difficult and depressing sometimes.

My friends think I am reclusive and that i never wanna go out and do things on fri/ sat nights but really I just hate feeling uncomfortable. I hear bartenders/bouncers or random girls n guys say things like kid must have good fake ID or who brought the 16 year old to the party. I hate feeling depressed because I know I am a nice caring guy that has a lot to offer but I hate feeling like I wish I was never even born because I just cant seem fit in and be happy. I would love to talk more with people that relate to this problem. email me plz if anyone wants to talk bhazelton85@gmail.

you sound hot

Im also in the same boat. Though unlike most of the posts here, im male. I am 28 but i don't shave and generally look under 18. In the past i have been in fights stemming from age related issues.

I find it extremely difficult to maintain any form of respect in my career, and have had to work extremely hard to get a managerial role. I have very little self confidence, and find myself thinking more and more that socialising is not worth the hassle.

I totally agree that "you will appreciate it when you're older" is not the compliment it is meant for, I find it condescending and demeaning.

I agree. Everyone thinks I have an advantage due to looking young but all I ever get is questioning around my creditably and assumptions that I am an inexperienced moron. I have worked incredibly hard to get to where I am, but when I was a manager I coped a lot of hostility due to my physical appearance.

you are not the only one! and I'm glad that I'm not the only one who looks like a tiny little girl. <br />
I'm 23 years old, but people always think I'm 13 or 14. I'm only 4'10, not only that, my face is round and chubby just like a little girl, oh and my voice is small too, like a kid! I hate that when I drive, people always look at me thinking that I'm driving ilegally. and when I go to the bar people think I've got a fake id and they just laugh at me and treating me like a little girl.<br />
It's even worse when I go to a job interview, they always treat me like a little girl too!<br />
I just hate how I don't look normal like other people! I'm kind of worry that I can't have a proper job in the future because of my appearance, what do you think?<br />
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This discussion board is helping, I was thinking of making a group for people who look younger than their age, haha

Wow you sound a lot like me, I'm about 4'10/4'11 female and turning 20, same kind of facial features, I hate being this short it makes me feel so unattractive, always last next to my friends. When I ask people some say I look 12 others say I look 16. It feels like people are just plain lying to me all the time. Sometimes I see the good things of being this short, but most days I feel like **** about how I look. I'v also come to hate the words "adorable, and cute" when people describe me, it makes me feel like a child. Its kind of cruel to feel good or happy that theirs others like me with same problem, when I know how much I hate myself for being this.... small.

Hey guys! I have the same issue! I'm 29 and people still think I'm 12 sometimes. I'm married and my husband is 39! So of course, people have to comment about how he looks like my father...I hate hate hate it and am very sensitive about it. I too, look at a picture from when I was 16 and I haven't changed a bit! Going to family reunions or seeing someone you haven't seen in a looong time is awkward...."Why hasn't she aged? She still looks like a kid!" Its very upsetting - most people don't seem to think its a bad thing, they tell me its a good thing, blah blahhh. I too, go through phases where it really gets me down. I don't want to meet my husbands friends, or go to a bar, etc. But there are times when I just forget about it, am confident, and have fun. The number one thing that helps me through is that I have a lot of friends. I have a great personality and I'm a very likable person. And that's all that matters. It doesn't matter how old I am or how old I look. Age is a number. Its a man made thing. People like me and that's all that should matter. Screw the people who make a HUGE deal about it. If they say, "wow you look really young" in an offensive way, I just say "wow, you're really fat," or whatever!!! Its the same disrespect whatever it is. Deal with them, and then move along. Focus on yourself and they people that love you.

I am the same way. I am 29 and people think I am just graduating from high school. I am short too and not really thin though. I would say my body type is perfect for my height. I get so annoyed with it for a long time now. As you said, I tried everything you have done to make look older. I looked up some of my photos when I was 16 and I hadn't changed! I got a lot of comments especially when Im with my husband. They thought I am his daughter. For sure he won't go to jail. I just brush it off for a long time too like you but I am now in the point that I do not appreciate it anymore.

Hi there, I just rolled through because you know... Obviously you have felt the same way, and just pray for the days you go out and do something "adult" and not get a comment about your looks. I am a 23 year old male, I would say I am attractive most definitely... But looking young, is it a blessing? Sometimes it just makes me so anxious I don't even want to leave the house, and I am such a social person with a giant personality that others do enjoy having around. My friends BEG for me to come out, and there are Friday evenings I would rather sit at home than go out to the club or bar just to avoid that tingling I get in my stomach from the comments or being asked. Days will go by and I will sometimes forget, "am I finally starting to age a bit?" And than you get the comment "uhhh how old are you?" Not only getting carded for a lighter, but getting your ID swiped? I understand your pain, and I commend you for being able to go out into the work force and get through college. These are things that, I don't know if sound near pathetic, but I have limited myself from doing because the anxiety I get. Its a shame because no one really understands, and the most embarrassing moments are the ones where bartenders or bouncers make comments in front of the people I am with. They just laugh it off like its no big deal, but it is absolutely devastating. Anyway, I feel your pain. I started working out and put on muscle and it did not really help. I guess the only thing you can really do is just push forward, it IS really hard. Good luck to those who suffer this. It isn't fair, but you have to sit back and really be thankful you don't have any REAL problems. It really is the only thing that gets ME through.

after hearing you guys im scared for the future now. im like 15 but i look 10 and you might think "oh she will grow up and be fine" but now, ive always looks younger im small and thin and i hate it. everyone else has curves and **** and theres me, small and skinny loud girl who looks like they just started secondary school. i got no boobs i got no *** i got nothing to show im my age. MY *** ITS A BLESSING! if that was the case why laugh at the fact that i look young?! they say its good when ur older, WHY SHOULD I ******* WAIT TILL IM 50 TO HEAR PEOPLE BEING NICE!?

i am so glad i found this site! i thought i was the only one that felt this way. I am 25 going on 26 years old and im still mistaken for 16 or 18. Its sooo annoying! I could tell people that see me on a regular basis how old i am and within a weeks time they forget just that quick because i look so young to them, it gets on my nerves! And as it was stated above, No you get no respect when you look so much younger. People also think that its ok to try and run over me because im smalled fr<x>amed, 115 pounds at 25, and i hate to turn mean and tell them whats on mind, but i just get fed up at times!

I am turning 35 next month and still people think I am in my twenties! In my best days I look 23 years old!<br />
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I am still single because I attract only boys (ok men) under 30 years old or men between 40 & 50!<br />
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I have to admit that I dress quite in a boyish way: I can't help I love jeans and flat shoes.<br />
My makeup is quite simple: loose powder and mascara. I have even been told that when I put more make up I look younger! How bad is that?<br />
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I work in a high school and pupils find it hard to take me seriously and always think that I am student!<br />
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I'm nearly 35 and quite desperate! What's annoyed me is people make assumptions and decide to ignore me/disrespect me because I look young.<br />
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When I walk with my older sister (she is 38) people think she is my mum!!! How rude is that? How embarassing it is for my sister! Even with younger friends it happens.<br />
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I have been experiencing this since I was a teen so not much has changed. Ok it's a blessing but it's still really frustrating.

I totally empathise with the comments here! I'm 24, slim and 5"2...I take care of my skin and hair and have a youthful face. On a number of occasions people I don't know have made comments about how old they think I am... asking ridiculous things like, "are you sure you're that old?" ....I've got an honours degree and a master's degree, I've travelled the world and have worked in a professional role for 2 years. It really irritates me that strangers think it's okay to not take me seriously despite these things just because they think I look young. I understand that people selling alcohol have a responsibility to ensure they aren't selling products unlawfully and I don't mind that much if these people politely ask to see my ID - it's annoying but it's just their job. People who just think it's okay to comment on your appearance for their own interest just make me angry though. How can people be this ignorant?! welchstacey - I'm sick too of people saying, "ooo, you'll appreciate it when you're 40"... I don't want to have to wait until I'm 40 to get some respect!<br />
ps.greeneyes - don't try to change yourself - i bet you look lovely! Next time it happens ask the person how old THEY are and see how they like it!

Thank you Welchstacey for your comment. I couldn't agree with you more, I don't understand how old I need to be before I'm taken seriously or look my age. I hate that people don't take me seriously and in turn it makes me self conscious. I am pretty much the same size as you and I think that really does add to my youthful image. I just know I can't really change it, I've always been small and it's a little too late for me to grow to Amazon woman heights. Some days I just ignore the ignorant comments, but other days it just seems too much. I just want to look my age so I can be taken seriously as an adult. Let's hope this phase passes quickly!

I am 35 and a mother of a 12 year old daughter and 9 year old son. Everyone thinks I am their sister. I've looked young as long as I can remember. I am also 5'1" and about 110 lbs so that doesn't help. It really bothers me when people don't take me serious at work because I look like I'm 22 and they think I don't know what I'm talking about. It also annoys me when teachers don't treat me like I am my childrens mother. I'm tired of hearing people say "you will appreciate it when your older" how much older do I have to get before I appreciate it and get some respect.

Greeneyes..I am 35 and in the same boat. It is very frustrating as a wife and mother of 3. I sent you a pm.

Thank you astrapy for the kind words. I hope to be able to let these comments just roll of my back soon.