Drinkin' Buddy

I lost a friend when I stopped drinking.  He was a comedian, we used to perform together, and we could crack each other up for hours on end.  But when I decided I simply had to stop drinking, he disappeared.  I tried to keep the friendship alive, but I couldn't do it.  Finally it dawned on me, we weren't friends, we were drinkin' buddies.  In the years since then I've had plenty of time to think about the difference - and I surely do prefer real friends to buddies that evaporate when the house lights come up.  
ElLagarto ElLagarto
56-60, M
10 Responses Jul 7, 2007

WittyOne - I loved what you said about listening. And this is a big part of what makes EP work - people speak from the heart (usually) and they know they are being listened to with compassion. It's extraordinary.

WittyOne - I loved what you said about listening. And this is a big part of what makes EP work - people speak from the heart (usually) and they know they are being listened to with compassion. It's extraordinary.

When I first got my own PC and eventually ventured into a chat room (this was about 9 years ago) it was so intangible to me, like being a character in parallel, made-up universe. I never thought you could really be a friend to someone you only knew on-line.<br />
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I am a very practical, tangible sort, but I discovered you can be a friend to others you haven't met in person. Often the most important function a friend can perform is just to listen. The friendships are sometimes fleeting for a variety of reasons, that doesn't make them any less important or demean the impact they may have had at the time.<br />
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As they say, one can never have too many friends.

Certainly there are levels of friendship. I suppose I was trying to say that I take a friendly attititude towards everyone, and consequently, frienships sometime develop. I would point to EP as an example. I didn't come here looking for friends, I just happened to make some - and continue to do so.

I used to be like that. Now I'm willing to befriend anyone that's nice and doesn't steal my CDs when I'm not looking. I'm very un-picky.

I/m pretty lucky. I haven't lost any good ones.<br />
Of course, I usually only become friends with certain types of people. I'm pretty picky.

She picked up my wit, all right - now, if only she'd pick up her room!<br />
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Friends help you move, real friends help you move bodies.

Love that ex<x>pression, I can see your daughter picked up you wit. Sad but a reality, and it's important to know and understand the difference.

Thanks - PrettyInPink. I still miss him. We had great fun. But our friendship was, as my daughter would say, "As deep as a Frisbee."

i love that story. too true!!