My Dad Died While I Was Pregnant.

i am so terribly sorry about your loss. i too lost my father, but not to cancer. he died of kidney disease at age 52.
my religion teaches that those who have "passed on" are able to continue to know and love the unborn, because we all existed spiritually before birth into mortality. after physical death, we continue to live and enjoy our families, but in another sphere, which is all around us. i have no doubt that your father knew your son before he was born, and loved him. he still does. i only wish your son (and all of us) could remember his life in "the pre-existance" to mortality. your son knew and loved his grandpa before he was born, and he will remember and love his grandpa again after he passes on, hopefully at an old age.
i'm sharing this with you because this knowlege gives me comfort. also, because i believe it's true.
God bless you.

I can't believe reading your story - my dad died March of 2007, literally 5 days before my first scan for what would have been his first grandchild. I was 19 when he died, and was distraught. When I had my son and he was not there, it was hard... what made it worse, was he used to work where i had my son and everyone was talking about him. I understand he suffered too much, just wish he could have met him, he would have been great. My dad now lives on in my son and everyday i see more and more of Dad in him. My son like yours, is a spitting image of my father, which helps in a way.
I just wanted to share this and I talk to my Dad everyday, and everytime I look at my son i am reminded. Take Carex

Brought tears to my eyes.

I gave birth to my son in the same hospital where my father died just 4 months earlier. The moment my son was born, I could see and feel my dad standing behind the doctor, looking healthy, smiling, and crying. I can't explain it...I just knew. I knew that after he died if he was ever gonna be with me in spirit, this was that day. I get choked up thinking about it. I was crying so hard, and was thanking God for letting me see my dad and knowing my dad's spirit was with me and that he was ok. All the pictures taken right after my son came out, I am just in tears. I was crying because I had given birth to a healthy boy, and for the first time since my father passed, I could grieve.

You know, its amazing how God works. I'm sure this is all so much in His WIll. I know how hard it is to lose a father, mine we lost when i was 9. But, a similar situation, kind of, is that, my husband is the spitting image of my father(not that I see him that way), my father died March 12 of 1979, my husband was born August 23rd of 1979. I had a dream, with my father telling me he is in heaven and not to worry, because all my needs will be met. They are. Its amazing.
I'm sure your father is watching over you all, always!!!

I lost my father for cancer in 2001. I still don´t have children to name him after, but many children are named after him, so it is comforting. Many people and my family misses him and I do also, although not as hard as before. Looking at his picture reliefs me. He lives in my memory. I am glad, that you have a child, that can remind you of him, and I am glad that he knew, that you were having a child. It must be very comforting. We still remember him on his birthday. The sun always rises that day.

I know exactly what you are feeling and I am so sorry for your lost. I was 4 months pregnant with my son when my mother passed. I want to tell you even though you think your father did not see your son, believe me he has. Our loved ones are always with us, watching over us. When we die we go to a better place, free of all negativity and sorrow. My son has actually felt my mother caress his face at night sometimes, if your child says he sees grandpa, he does. Children have clean hearts and souls that are not bogged down by all we stress over. They can see what we don't see, because they have clean thoughts. God Bless you and give you strength and open your mind to believe your loved ones are around you. They will come to see you in your sleep, as to not frightened you.

Triciafly, I can relate with what you expressed in this beautiful memory, but it wasn't my ***** donor that passed it was my mom. She has been gone since 7-3-97, she was just 47 yrs young when that horrible illness we call the "Big C" took her life and she began to die the minute she was diagnosed on 4-15-94 ( I was working for TicketMaster at that time) and I got the call at exactly 11:58 a.m. I went into complete shock ( I even forgot my name and where I lived---I swear) and I remember everything that happened as if it happened yesterday. She made me promise to be strong for her, my sister and my grandma and I never ever broke my promises to my mom.
I can still see what she looked like the day before she died and how she smelled like death was just around the corner and that's when I finally cried, for the 1st time, in front of her.
The pain of losing a parent never goes away..it just becomes easier to deal with it. Yes, my mom has been gone for a long time now, but I still smell her favorite perfume ( Hawaiian White Ginger) , I can hear her telling me to get the hair out of my face, I can , at times, feel her embracing me as if to let me know everything is going to be alright.
To this day, I feel tremendous amount of guilt that I am still living and she passed and left me. I remember begging and pleading with the doctor's to kill me and I would sign any and all forms and take whatever she needed so that she could be there when her 1st grandchild was born. I was even going to kill myself and leave a note saying that they are to replace any organs that the cancer had infected with mine. The dr's told me it would not matter since she is in stage 4 cancer and it is too aggressive to treat and even if they did that there's no guarantee she would live for very long because the cancer will over take the new organs.
I miss my mom so very very much, but I know that she is not suffering and is very happy. I am truly sorry for your loss, please take care.
Toni

I'm so sorry for your lost, i lost my mother on June 7 2008 to cancer it is very hard because my mom has always lived with me she was there when i got married and when i had my three children, all the birthdays,awards. But the sad thing is physically she couldnt be here for when my son and his band perform on stage,but as i hade tears in my eyes and her photograph in my hands facing the stage i knew she was there (she wouldnt miss it ).

I know exactly how you are feeling hun. I found out i was pregnant early 2005 and the first person I wanted to tell was my Mum. She was over the moon. A second grandchild! She had always been a poorly lady and was in a wheelchair and I thought that this would be the lift she needed. When I was seven months pregnant she went down hill dramatically and within 3 days she had passed away. She never got to see her granddaughter or her twin grandsons that were born the year after.