He Smoked

Smoking kills more people in the US every year than all the illegal drugs and the crime of murder combined.
My father, grandfather ,and grandmother all died of lung cancer or emphazema. Mom had emphazema too, but cancer of the pancreas took her.

I feel for you, my husband is a smoker and I have tried my best to make him stop, he has tried to stop too, at last I feel hopeless and wait for something to happen for him to stop it for once. I am in a place where is sociable acceptable and it makes me sick, I hate it and I hate the ignorant people who think I'm funny for not accepting it as a normal thing. I wish one day he would stop and stop letting people smoke in my house, yeah like if it wasn't bad enough I have to deal with the whole family & friends second hand smoke. Sometimes I get so mad and tell him off but others I just shut up to avoid the sour moment and pick a fight...My only hope is that he would stick to his promise and when we have children his smoking will stop forever.

Damn, that is exactly my story. Exactly. Right down the line, only he had 3 boys. I was 13 or 14 when he passed. We did not cry, because by then I was just numb.
Second hand smoke really screwed my lungs. That and my mother. My brothers seemed to make off better. They were younger.
Since I worked so closely with my dad, I took up the father figure for my two brothers. To this day I have a sorta control over the house. But my mom was so messed up back then, she hated me twice more, just because I reminded her of her late husband.

Wonderful time. But damn Reading that was like reading my life as a kid.

I am so sorry for your loss, even tho it was long ago. Bless you, my friend. I lost my daddy to cancer 7 1/2 yrs ago...he was a wonderful daddy...he was 71..I still miss him like it was yesterday. I need him still. Hugs.

I know that feeling too i lost my father when i was 5 to lung cancer because he wouldn't stop. my mother had to take care of me and brother,sister working 2 jobs.

I'm a 15 year old girl and my father is currently fighting lung cancer. He does chemo and radiation a few times a week. He had to get a blood transfusion because he is so skinny and his immune system is very very weak. He still smoke 2 packs a day. I started smoking before we found out and I smoke at least a pack a day. I've never been close to my father. We fight a lot and nothing I do is ever good enough. Although, I feel pain and depression from him dying. He is 56 and has been smoking since he was about 11. I don't know how much longer he will live.

My Grandfather died of lung cancer, about 7 years ago and i can't get over the fact i vowed i would never go down the same past but here i am,..smoking, i hate it and am trying to quit, i suppose a part of me feels it brings me closer to my grandfather...............all my love to you & your mum i know how hard it is to lose someone close x

I'm so sorry for your lost. I'm scared that my mom will get cancer because she smokes when ever she gets stressed, and that's kinda often. I asked her not to smoke and she was on the patch for a while, but like two months later, she went right back to smoking. I'm really scared for her.

gosh I feel for you all my daddy past November 10th 2007 at 9:47am when I was 11 from golfwar sindrom(he was in the army), he went to sleep and the next morning he just didnt wake back up and I am now 14 and a half and I still feel the guilt because the night before he died we had an argument over somthing ABSOLUTLY STUPID!!! the last words I said to him were "I HATE YOU! and then I slamed my bedroom door in his face and he told my mom that he would talk to me in the morning but he never got the chance ever since that day to today i still hate myself, I'm lost I dont know what to do without him you know sometimes I wish I could go back in time and change everything..... if ANYONE I dont care who but if anyone has any advice or has been in the same situation or is in the same situation PLEASE comment or if you just want to leave a comment feel free P.S I just need to know that im not alone please! im begging you someone talk to me!!!

I lost my dad to lung cancer when I was 18 (I am now 56). That was in 1973. Later, in 1990 I would lose my mother to congestive heart failure (she also had emphysema). I am the youngest of 5 children, all boys. My brother Bill was the next to perish from cigarettes, at the age of 56, in the year 2000, then my brother Ray succumbed to smoking in 2005. It was in 2005 that I decided I had to do something. Quitting smoking is so hard for people. I learned that hypnosis is the most effective way for people to stop smoking and I became a hypnotist. Smoking Cessation is a major emphasis for me. I want to help at least 100 people stop smoking (one on one) in 2011. I have already helped hundreds.

I can tell you that guilt won't help. I can tell you that the financial burden is not enough. I can tell you that women who smoke don't mind the sharp hurt to their appearance done by cigarettes. The anti-smoking advertising is almost comically ineffective. Spouses who nag their mates to stop only get them smoking more, more often than not.

So what is a person to do? Smokers often seem like they are strong and self-centered, but very often they are deeply wounded themselves. They smoke from a place of pain. That means loving acceptance of them as people will help them to build the resolve to stop smoking. There are thousands of hypnotists across the country. You might find one as committed to helping people stop smoking as am I.

Reading these reports once again brought memories back to me, very painful memories, and as I write this, I have to tell you that there are tears in my eyes. When I think of the kids who will live without mom or dad, or mom and dad, I ache for them. I know how much it hurt me at my daughter's wedding to watch my wife's parents dance together. Neither of my parents lived long enough to see that happy event. My father-in-law recently passed away, in his mid-eighties. Nearly 33 years more than I had my dad. You cannot imagine what a difference it makes.

I practice in NY. Cigarettes are $8-$11 per pack here. That's about $4000 a year for a typical smoker. If someone invested $8 a day instead of burning it, they would wind up with about $2 million over 40 years. That's a lot of money to burn because it seems cool to smoke. If you ask a smoker what they would rather have in 40 yrs, $2 million (US) or the consequences of smoking for 40 yrs, they will say "give me the money". Yet it is hard for them, so they do need the assistance. Support and love will do much more than guilt and anger.

My dad smokes too...annoys me...hate him for that...it's up to him to stop...he's in total control of his life, minus the fact god is...