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He Smoked

He smoked since he was 13 or something like that I heard my mom say. He's always smoked. He smoked in the house when we were all infants, of course back then they weren't aware of second hand smoke. He was a wonderful man as I remember him. He was so mellow. He always had a smile on his face and something funny to say. He cared so much for his family.  He married my mom at 23 and they had 6 children, 3 boys and 3 girls. The perfect family. We were so happy together, had a beautiful 5 bedroom house with a big back yard. We went to private schools and even had a maid. Then one day my mother noticed he would make a face whenever he pushed on the brake. She asked him if he was ok, of course he said he was. He never complained of anything, he hated going to the doctor's. But as time went by the pain got worse and worse. So my mom ended up dragging him there. It turned out they had to operate on him, but when they did they just closed him back up and said they were sorry but there wasn't anything else they could do. The cancer that had started in his lungs had spread all over his body. The doctors gave him 6 months to live. They tried chemo but unfortunately didn't work. He died at 43 leaving 6 of us behind. The oldest 17, the youngest 4. I was only 7. I never cried. I remember seeing the casket and going up to it and starring at him just laying there....lifeless. I didn't understand why he was dead. I tried to cry like everyone else was crying but I just couldn't back then. Now I'm making up for it. It's hard to grow up without a father in your life. Not only that but he didn't have life insurance so we had a lot of financial trouble after he died. My mom had never worked in her life before that so she had to suffer a lot doing odd jobs to support 6 kids on her own. I have a lot of respect and pride for my mother. She is one awesome lady.
lily7 lily7 41-45, F 36 Responses Sep 26, 2007

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I also lost my dad to cancer wheni was 16.We then moved to another town where my mom lived until xmas 2001.She died of parkinsons.Having lost both parents i know what it feels like.

he smoked a lot...I loss my father this month with lung cancer. He was 57 years old. I need my father...he was my life.

Dear wwefan66,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. When I was 11 my mother had to move away to start a new life for us for about a year. So unfortunately I know how it feels to be without both parents. I'm here for you if you ever need to talk about it.

Take care and God bless

So sorry to hear that as well pupillis. Message me if you need to talk. Hang in there, its a long grieving process.

I hope things are getting better for you and your family? Death is a very tuff thing to deal with especially when it is premature. After reading all of these thoughtful messages. I came to realize one thing. No one said anything about not having life insurance. Well I want to share my story. My dad who was killed in a car accident 14 years ago crossing a street came to my mind after reading your story. Like your dad my dad had no life insurance. Leaving this responsibility to my mom, sister, brother and I. It was horrible we couldn't even afford a proper burial. It was a very sad and angry time for us. If there is anything to get from this story is the importance of having financial plans such as life insurance for something that is going to happen to all of us "GAURANTEED". Of course we all will go in some way or another, so its not if its when. Please understand I am a very carring parent/husband and my #1 financial obligation is to protect my families financial future. Especially from premature death. Not to mention wealth preservation of our family legacy.



"Gods Speed"

Hey, my dad has been smoking since he was 14 now he's in his early fortys I'm very worried and concerned on his health but I don't know what to do see him and my mum are not together p,us I'm only 14