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I Lost My Father

It Was So Quick and Painful

By: Michiganmom
Written on June 19th, 2008

My father had a cold and a cough that would not get better.  I had just had a friend die very suddenly, and she had a cough that would not go away either.  I told my stepmother to take him to a doctor, that it just didn't feel right to me, and he was diagnosed with lung cancer in July and died three months later.  It was so sudden, he had not smoked in 25 years, and my stepmom and I wonder if he had gotten a chest x-ray a year or two before if they would have caught it.  I flew to Arizona to spend time with him, and I am so grateful for that time.  I miss my dad, I was a daddy's girl, and I think about him every day.

By: Michiganmom
Age: 46-50 , Female
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    Neveah
    Neveah

    That is terrible. I hear this all too often. Lung cancer creeps up really fast. Odds are, there were nothing you could have done.

    I was daddy's girl also. I lost mine when I was 9.

    Its still hard to deal with, and probably always will be.

    Hang in there.

    Jun 20, 2008
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    Michiganmom
    Michiganmom

    It must have been hard for you to see him go down hill, but you are so fortunate to have been able to reverse the roles a bit and care for him. I wasn't able to do that as he was in Arizona and me in Michigan, but I would have cared for him in a heartbeat, he was such a special man and so many people loved him. My stepmom had a memorial party and almost two hundred people showed up to honor my dad. That I think is what got my heart the most, that so many people loved him too. He was just a fantastic human being.

    Jun 20, 2008
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    tuttifrutti
    tuttifrutti

    How sad, I too lost my father to cancer, bowel cancer. He got a year from the time he was diagnosed dispite surgery. His last 6 months were horrific and I cared for him throughout. Never wanna see that again, it robbed him of his dignity and he was such a proud man. Thanks for sharing, I miss my dad terribly too.

    Jun 19, 2008
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